Friday, November 9, 2012

LOVIN' the LURKIN'



So what to say about Love your Lurkers day 7 ?  First off I wasn’t even a lurker this time last year.  Yup, hard to believe the woman who sits here typing today didn’t even know that Dd existed this time last year!  Now I am pouring out my heart almost on a daily basis for the ‘world’ to see.

I started lurking in the spring I guess.  I think I stumbled on Mick’s blog because of a Google search.  It had the word husband in it.  Believe it or not that is how I found Dd because of the word HUSBAND.  Hmm?  Must give that some thought.  Anyway, I read for a really long time, clicking from one blog to the next.  I think the first comment I made was on Stormy’s blog, Shelter from the Storm-( I still don't know how to link other blogs here). I couldn’t believe I had done that!  I mean initially I felt I had no right.  I was not part of the community.  Heck my husband didn’t even know about Dd, much less practice it !  My comment was in reference to the beauty of their love in that particular post not about Dd directly, so that gave me some comfort.  I signed it “C” as I didn’t have one of those blog ID thingies.  I was still so nervous, even though she didn’t know who I was, and that I never had to look again if I didn’t want to.

I felt the feeling of love that can be seen in this community as a lurker and I thought I was like the uninvited guest showing up at the table.  That is so not true.  There is ALWAYS room for one more at the ttwd table….even if you don’t eat the same food!  I learned that almost instantly from her kind reply.  I started to comment on a few other sites here and there,with similar results.

The more I read, the more I actually wanted to have a relationship with my husband like the people in this community do with their spouses.  THAT is not to say that if you are not living a Dd lifestyle or if you don’t intend to we value your comments any less.  You may do the things we do  and you may not, but the core of the subject matter is still about relationships.  Any point of view, even a different ( or perhaps especially a different one )is always welcome!  Actually different points of views usually end up being the more thought provoking ones, and can allow for the most growth.

I am not exactly sure when it happened but I realized that signing “ C” was fine and all but I really should get one of those Blogger ID thingies.  Then I thought, what better way to help me with my journey ie, “coming out “ if you will to my husband  than to start a blog of my own ?  But that is another story.

I will say one thing I have told a few lurkers who have delurked, IF you think you may want to blog down the line, get a Blogger ID. (CHOOSE YOUR NAME WISELY… you might saddle yourself with a name like WILMA for all of blogging eternity ! and don't even get me started on how HOT the name Barney is!) I say this because when you comment, people will know it is you and when you blog they will find you!  I had to go around after I started blogging explaining I was ‘C’ to a few people.

BUT no matter if you want to blog in the future or not.  PLEASE say hello today, tomorrow. next week.  I know you are out there reading.  Barney and I love to see on the blogger which countries everyone is from who comments ( don’t worry we don’t know WHO is in each country, it just tells us someone from India is reading our blog).

We are a fun loving community.  We are respectful of each other and those who comment.  We are not exclusive though.  We welcome new commentors  with open arms…heck look at me – I’ve only been around ( writing) for 7 weeks or so…and yet here I am saying WE !

COMMENT!  I don’t bite ( unless asked ). And

…what’s that?  …(Barney is yabbering in my ear)…

*******Oh for the love of all things holy! ******

He said…( to you lurkers out there

 “Write, you know you love me ( Barney) so leave me a comment and tell me how much

…yes dear it is ALL about you!  Sheesh…ego much ?!

He then added ( referring to himself)

Not hard to love a guy who doesn’t comment”. 

True and timely Barney.  So comment so we can get to know and ‘love’ you too!-  Um, you lurkers not Barney!

Thanks for Lurking!  I hope you continue to read…lurker or not.

Love Willie!

68 comments:

  1. Morning Wilma, hows the coffee this morning? Happy LOL day, have a great day!

    Great post, well said. This is a wonderful community, so supportive and encouraging.

    To you lurkers out there, Wilma doesn't bite, honest! so go on, say hi!

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  2. Good evening Roz. Coffee's great. Morning came too soon (long story, short night) Looks like it is going to be another nice day here.

    Thanks for stopping by on your way to bed. Much appreciated.

    See lurkers, I didn't know Roz that long ago- now I have a morning coffee buddy who lives oceans away!

    DELURK !

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  3. That's some quick lurking to blogging turn around Wilma! Glad you decided to take the plunge:)

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    1. Tess, you should know by now, I'm all about the speed!---well in most things *wink*

      Thanks for your support over the past while. Thinking of you while you're chartering your ship solo.

      Much love

      Willie

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  4. It is quite a journey from lurker to blogger but you are proof, as we all are, that it is done regularly. Barney is a hoot! Men.

    I bet you have all sorts of women reading here who want to do exactly what you have done in this past year. I hope they are brave and leave you some comments.

    Have a good day Williekins. :)

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    1. Thanks Susie

      Okay Lurkers, I read Susie's blog FOREVER before I delurked. In fact I don't think I even commented on her blog until after I started my own.

      Because I had 'known' her for so long and she didn't 'know' me from Adam I was quite intimidated, even after I had spoken with so many in blog land. She was like a 'celebrity' of sorts.

      She commented on my blog, and what I had said to another blogger about 'celebrities' in blog land and quickly chastised me (lol) -now I consider her one of my blogging friends.

      I know it is nerve racking, but read around we all felt the same way..

      DELURK!

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  5. Hi Wilma,

    Happy LOL 7 day! I'm a regular visitor to your blog, and always enjoy your posts.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Welcome my fellow Crazy Canuck!

      Yes I saw that you were a follower, I was quite impressed with myself! I have been to your blog numerous times, but only left one comment I believe.

      Thank you for reading, and I am so happy to know you enjoy my posts. I am most flattered.

      Cold handed( just came in from outside and its still a little cold out)but warm hearted HUGS back

      Willie

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  6. Welcome, isn't de-lurking fun? Look how brave you were, it took me 5-6 years. by the way if I can do the link thing, you can. I will try and tell you if you want to know.

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    1. Yeah, I don't know what got into me that day I started my blog. I didn't even have any forethought about it. I didn't stew over it for day<- I KNOW RIGHT, HOW VERY UNWILMA LIKE OF ME! The Powers that Be must have just known I should do this. So I took the plunge. I haven't regretted it for a second...well not true, when I see my numerous spelling mistakes on people's comment section, I'd like to go back in time, but other then that, I'm all good!

      Five or Six years eh? Hmmm. Better check the expiry date again on your Eden gift certificate there Speedy! Kidding...ya know I love ya my fellow 'naughty' Catholic Girl!

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  7. Happy LOL day wilma!

    Well said. All our relationships come in different forms and as someone who isnt married to her partner (and is in fact illicitly so) i thought i would b chastised, condemned, but what i found was a whole lot of understanding instead.

    I love this community. N i love that i found u. I also realised i started saying "we" very early on. But thats cos its such a welcoming community.

    And if u wanna link something eg "stormy" then u highlight it, and go up to where it says "link" and click on that button, dont worry, u can always undo, and type in the actual website address. So eg if u want the words "that crazy woman" to link to my blog u would highlight/select those three words and click link then in the box for url address u would type fondles.blogspot.com.

    (Sorry i had to use my add cos im on my fone and i cant get to a proper computer to check stormy's web url!)

    Hope that helps. Email me if i want better instructions i can send pics and diagrams ;)

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    1. I love that you found me too! I love being Fondled!! Tee hee :)

      See lurkers even technical help can be found in this here community!

      Delurk...you could be Fondled too!

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  8. This is one of the best Love Our Lurkers post I've read! Great job, Wilma. (I remember C! I didn't know that was you.)

    P.S. Sorry, Barney—I don't swing that way, buddy.

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    1. Welcome Back Kevan!

      Wow. I am so flattered by your comment. Seriously, I even got an exclamation mark! Yeah C is just one of my many monikers.

      Barney said, and I quote " Tell him my awesomeness supersedes all boundaries of sexuality "

      Lurkers- ttwd has TOTALLY changed my husband. Most things in a great way...and then there are comments like the one above.

      Missed your comments Kevan!

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  9. Hi Wilma....

    I am no lurker....I am kinda like a bad headache that won't go away ;)

    I am so happy you de-lurked and made your way into blogland...you entertain me on a daily basis :)

    Happy lol day, my friend

    ~Lucy

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    1. LUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCY!

      Hey lurkers Lucy was the second person to comment on my blog, after Bas. I was so nervous about Blogging I didn't even tell Lillie I did it( my bad). Anyway, I had never read anything Lucy wrote, so I quickly went over to her blog and well a friendship has been born..more like a teasing sister-type deal, where we tease each other, but more then that support each other. Well she really just supports me. I went from lurker to leech..lol

      Lucy if you're a headache I don't want any asprin. (Here let me hand you a bucket to vomit in).


      Happy LOL day to you my friend...now go drink some water!

      Willie

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    2. Ahhhh Wilma...you can be such a sweetie....most of the time....I just know Barney is shaking his head in agreement with this :D

      I do love to tease, but yes the support....because between the two of us we have some issues to work out....poor Barney and Ryan ;) I prefer to think that we are keeping them young!!!!

      No buckets...no vomit...eeek! I don't do well with bodily fluids ;)

      Water, water yeah, yeah. You and Ryan have some sort of covert operation going I swear ;)

      Have a good one friend

      ~Lucy

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    3. Hey! I didn't say I was in cahoots with Ryan, I'm just worried about your backside.
      Could you imagine a cross country road trip with the 4 of us?..Wouldn't get very far. Ryan would have to stop at every picnic stop to 'deal' with you! LOL

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  10. Happy LOL Day, Lillie. You've got quite a following in a short time. That says you have great things to say and share. Hugs.

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    1. Tee Hee Naughty P

      I know it is Friday morning and all but I'm pretty sure you meant to press the W key instead of the L ..

      No matter I love when you stop by even if you call me Lillie, ( not sure how she's going to feel about that!)

      As for the many followers, like I said before, I've been lucky enough that the cool kids let me hang out with them. Riding on their coat tails!

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  11. Hi Wilma. Happy LOL day!

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    1. Hey Mick! Gee thanks for stopping by.

      ( Note to lurkers...having a 'celebrity' blogger momment-note to Susie...no yelling please!).

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  12. Hey Willie - Happy LOL Day! Wow - lurker to blogger - broke a record did ya?! :) Will send you an email over the weekend on how to insert links in your post (easier for me to do with screen shots). Have a great day!

    Blessings,
    Cat

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  13. Hey Cat! Happy Friday! ( having shrimp tonight )

    Thanks!

    I'll get working on a few recipes to send too. I have one in mind for sure. <- See lurkers friendships- recipes is not code for anything...not Dd Ala King but real life stuff...

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    1. Ooh shrimp, one of my favorites! Would love to have recipes for that. Have several other shrimp recipes - will probably post in the next few weeks. Will be watching for the recipes. :)

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  14. Happy LOL Day from one perv to another!

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  15. Hey! I'm a low cal perv compared to you! *wink*

    Happy LOL to you too. I was already at your place,but no one had commented yet, and I didn't want my perverted self to scare away your lurkers. My lurkers are SO used to the twistedness over here!

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    1. "low cal perv" my a$$! Nice try!

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    2. Thanks for the Laugh Emma! Much needed...You are seriously misguided, but I still appreciate the chuckle.

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    3. Oh I'm not misguided my dear! You are a perv, so just own it! :) It's nice to have you over here on the dark side. lol

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    4. Well this comment I think pushed this post past the Anal beads one..thank you for that! I like the dark side all the cool people are there!

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  16. *******************NOTE TO LURKERS*************************
    Okay, I get what it looks like. You have arrived at a cocktail party, and you can hear from the voices on the other side of the door that the party has already started, and by the sounds of it quite a few drinks have been consumed. Please ring the bell and come in. You'll have a great time. I promise. ( I make a wicked drink, just tell me your poison )
    ************************************************************

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  17. Happiest of LOL Days Wilma! Love the blog & you are a wonderful part of the community :)
    Now... did someone mention a drink at this cocktail party? lol

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  18. Why I thank you sir!

    Sure come to the bar over for a drink---I've got a bottle of red wine and I'm only allowed 3 glasses as Barney is not home :)

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  19. My name is Irishey (around here), and I'm a recovering lurker. ;-)

    To any other lurkers wanting to take the plunge and be "seen," I post anonymously around blogland, but I "sign" as Irishey so my friends here can distinguish me from all the other anonymous folks. It's safe to say hi here. C'mon out and celebrate your day with us!

    Happy LOL Day, Willie! Great post, sweetie.

    Irishey (nope, it didn't hurt a bit!)

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    1. Ah my favourite Anonymous, not so anonymous Irishey!

      (psst I've love my other 3 anonymouses too...you know who you are :) )

      I've been trying all day to lure them out. I'm beginning to think all my pageviews are from Lucy!

      Thanks as always Irishey!

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  20. LOVE your LOL7 sign! Happy LOL day, Wilma. With your most remarkable blog name. I love it. :)

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    1. Hey Rogue!

      Thanks- Thought I'd add some bling to the thing!

      Is this your first time here? I can't remember. I know I am usually camped out over at your place, I just don't remember you knocking on my door.

      Regardless, I'm glad you stopped by!
      Willie

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  21. Hey Willie :D
    I have been your lurker this week. :)
    And your email stalker, but actually it has been fun.
    I do love Barney and you can tell him so.
    hugs
    lillie

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    1. I have loved being the object of your stalking this week lady!

      Great to have you back! It is going to get some used to seeing ians mrs on my posts though.

      Yeah I'll pass on your message the next time I see Mr. Ego Head ;)

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    1. Waving back atcha Lady!

      Hope you get some lurkers coming out on your blog, mine are still hiding.

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  23. I used to be a lurker...only a month ago.
    So like June I am going to wave too!

    wave wave (did you catch that wave?)

    Have a great day Wilma :)

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  24. I caught your wave mate!

    Glad that not only did you come out of Lurkerville, you moved into Blog Land!

    Enjoy your Sat. M3

    So no furnaces eh? Must be nice...mind you you seem to have a personal butt warmer anyway! *wink*

    Smoooches
    Willie

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  25. Happy LoL day! You have a great following now that you decided to stop lurking and begin blogging. You fit right in. Okay, I am not a lurker just a friend

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    1. Well I love that you are not a lurker but a friend...let's drop the 'just' shall we?

      Still want to know about the Finn hat Blondie!

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  26. Beautiful post Wilma! I like your name.
    I too lurkered for a very long time, then commented as CP, then started my blog under this name.
    I don't think I have ever lurked here. I always read your post, so if I didn't comment once, then yes that time I lurked.
    Happy LOL Day! I don't drink, so hand over your car keys and get smoggeled! : D

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    1. Hellllllllllllllo Blue Bird.

      Well I'm not crazy about my real name either, so I'm used to not liking my name...Although Willie and now Williekins has a much nicer ring to it :)

      I can't have more than 3 drinks when Barney's not around ( he hates coming home to a rave lol) so they'll be no getting smoggeled, but I'll give you my keys because I don't even have half a glass and drive...oh well I'm a cheap date if you don't take into account cab fare!

      I'm happy that you are not a lurker! At least not here :O)

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  27. Oh YAY!

    I mean Hello Zoe! Thanks for stopping by!

    And a Happy Happy LOL Day to you as well!!

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    1. Oh well hello there Spankedhortic II and welcome.

      This is so exciting more Blogs to read while Barney is forever working...you's looks like a lot of fun *blush*

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  29. Hello! I was gone all day and some of the night or I would have commented earlier! I'm not lurking anymore but I wanted to say Happy LOL day!!

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  30. Well that doesn't sound like a bored Momma! Always love it when you stop by!

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  31. I am a new lurker. Love your blog. But you scared me a but ;) still trying to decide the dd thing do I make the plunge tell my husband?!! I read everyone's stories and am ending up more conflicted so many beautiful stories how it makes you grow together but sometimes worried about upsetting the way things are working. But thank you for your blog.

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    1. Well I want to shout WELCOME, but I feel horrible.

      I don't mean to scare anyone. Obviously only you will know if you think this is for you or not.
      Personally I wouldn't change a thing. This(despite my numerous Weepy Willie entries) has changed our marriage for the better. WE do communicate more now, we are closer. I am IN love with my husband, I don't just merely love him.
      Every person deals with their emotions in their own way. I have had years of NOT dealing with mine. That is in part what my difficulties are with the beginning stages of ttwd is.
      We are a VERY playful couple. Our lives are so much more than is written on this blog. Actually everyone's are. Good or bad, you are only seeing snippets of our lives here.

      That being said, think long and hard about what you want for your future and how you would like to achieve it. TTWD is not for everyone. But again, I wouldn't take back one single tear.

      Thank you for stopping by, and whatever you decide, feel free to do so and comment as often as you like!

      Good luck
      Wilma

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  32. I'm stopping by to leave some Barney love..ha ha. You know what, my Ogre loves it when he gets the occasional slobberfest, lol.

    Wilma, I'm so glad you stopped by my blog such a short time ago, and that you started your own, and I think you also have the cutest names EVER. So there :) You guys are doing great, and I wish I had more time to check in. But thanks so much for the support you give to me on my blog.

    Stormy

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    1. Well Stormy, I am so happy that you stopped by at least once! I know you have such limited time, so I am truly flattered.

      If you happen to be back to read this, you can forward my love to the OGRE.
      Willie

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  33. Wilma,

    love your site- lurkin till I figure out how to blog without telling the world who we really are. New to all and treading the water
    CMW

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  34. Welcome CMW

    Let's see if I remember how I did it. I clicked on someone elses blog the button that said Create Blog and went from there. Don't worry if you make mistakes in creating your identity while you are doing it, because no one knows you are doing it :) I freaked out at first because I thought my birthday was going to be part of my profile. There are sections that you can click privacy so people don't see more than you want.

    Either way. You can always remain CMW in the anonymous section. Mind you we can't email you there :( ---I suppose you could ask other bloggers, they might tell you me not emailing you is a GOOD thing! lol


    Willie

    Ps so about treading water over here..Some days I feel like I've sunk to the bottom of the pool!

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  35. Impossible. I missed Wilma and Barney at LOL day.
    Cannot even wish them a happy LOL day anymore. To late.
    OK, Wilma and Barney, have a whole happy week.
    Now, I go stand in the corner for a while and think about my evil ways.
    Oh, wait, no time for the corner. Have to cook dinner.
    You know what, I'll cook something Lisa loves and I absolutely dislike: Cauliflower! Yikes, I'm way too severe for myself.

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    1. Oh GOSH don't do that Bas! All is forgiven. I blame the silly conversation we were having on Lucy's blog. You FELT like you were talking to me :)

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