Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Ask and you SHALL Receive

  Life has been going along here, as usual  whatever the heck that means.  I suppose I should actually say that nothing too exciting has been happening in my life.  No earth shattering breakthroughs or anything like that.  There have been the odd 'playful' arguments between Barney and I, some of which have had some fellow Dd wives either howling with laughter or saying , " YOU SAID THAT ?" .  Naturally the next day I thought I better bring it up with my HoH to see what he really thought about it.  Not second guessing him, just asking him if he found any of it to be disrespectful at all.  Turns out , no.  PHEW.

I have been getting a little more um, feisty.  Not disrespectful, ( remember I asked ) but playful.  The thing is.... this morning, after doing my usually Mother-Morning-Marathon, with Second in Line to the Throne, I started to think...( sorry Cat I really tried not too ).  Sure my words and tone were playful, and teasing, but there was something brewing underneath.


Have you ever been camping and used one of those older coffee percolators?    They look like this
Okay, actually ours is not as nice as this, but you get the general idea.  For those who don't know, you place your coffee in the basket on the left, place it in the pot,  filling it with as much water as you need.  You then place the entire pot over a heat source and as the water boils it goes through the basket ( filter) and starts to create your coffee.  The glass knob at the top is your tiny window that allows you to 'see' the colour of the coffee, ie how strong it is.  When it first starts to boil, the colour is very light, and continues to darken.  We have had it however, where we've left it too long,( man those camp stoves are HOT ). The constantly, rabid boil of the water, moves the filter resulting in coffee grinds in the coffee  ...blech!

 Right then, yet ANOTHER  Wilma analogy.  I could feel a little boil on the go.  I wasn't angry at all.  I couldn't quite put my finger on it really- the emotion.  I just  knew that I was 'off '.  I didn't want to end up boiling so much that my 'coffee' was too strong.  I certainly didn't want grinds either!

 I knew that Barney and myself had made a bit of progress last week with our punishment session, and I desperately wanted to hold on to that ground.  I was afraid that if I let this 'unsettled' feeling brew and boil it might get  to a spot where sassy and playful had an edge.  If I was not reeled back in I might loose respect . - I had decided I should speak with Barney after the other two boys went to school.  He asked me what I needed to talk to him about - I told him I honestly wasn't sure.

LIFE however got in the way.  The LIFE  Barney and I created together actually.  Teenagers!  That is all I am really going to say about that!  So now my emotions have kicked over the stupid coffee pot, although, oddly still not angry, now anxious, my stomach upset, weepy...and well lets face it sassy isn't known to lay dormant within the confines of Wilma for more than ...well  ever really.  F-A-N-T-A-S-T-I-C !  After figuring out a plan of action together Barney asked me if I still wanted to talk.  I said yes, but not quite at that moment.

About half an hour later, I found Barney in our bedroom, making our bed ( hey, last one out...and seeing how sleep and I have essentially parted ways, it is usually not my 'job' ) .  Without a word, I handed him this


He took it from me, took me in his arms and I buried my face in his neck.  He then quietly asked 

" You need me to use this ?"

Without looking up I nodded into his neck.  He pushed my back a bit and looked me in the eyes.

" Okay" and pulled me back into a hug once more.

About a minute later he spoke again, not moving me this time,

" Is this for punishment?  Erotic? or Maintenance ?"

" Reset"      I replied

" Okay "

He led me over to our bed, and we started our 'usual' <- ( like you're  veterans at this or something Wilma? ) routine.  During my warm up he told me to make sure I told him if I was hurting too much- if I honestly couldn't take anymore ( he's still concerned about my skin ).  I reassured him I was fine now.  He began to speak after a few minutes..

" Thank you for coming to me when you realized you needed help.  I was going to talk to you about your maintenance this week, but if  ever you need something before our scheduled session, I want you to come and talk to me- like today........  Are you okay?"

During the ping pong paddle session, I began to laugh ( I know).  He wanted to know what was funny THIS time.

" I'm sorry, but the neighbours are going to think you are building something over here, not spanking your wife.  It sounds like your hammering in a nail"

This resulted in a couple of chuckles and rapid fire...lol  and more ouch.

Once he decided that this could no longer continue, he stopped and asked.

" Do you feel better?"

" I honestly don't know.  I think this may take time again. "  ( censored activity )

We had a ton of things to get done today.  Barney asked if I had a preference in which order we wanted to do this.  I said something I have been wanting for weeks.  Something so simple. Something that people do all the time, but something we haven't done in forever.

" Can we lay on the couch and watch a movie together"

" Yes"

So that is how we spent our afternoon. Things will get done tomorrow.

 I'll be forever sassy- that I have no doubt...but the edge is gone-for now.  The issue with the 'boy' is still looming, and in all honesty is going to be an ongoing challenge. Did I say teenagers grrrrrrrrrrrr...yet? The anxiety, weepiness, and  the upset stomach are gone.

In a word.  I've been - reset


48 comments:

  1. Glad you got your reset. Sounds like just what you needed.

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    1. Hi Zoe

      Thank you- for the time being at least it seems to have done the trick

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  2. Sometimes laying on the couch and watching a movie is the absolute best. We all need a little down time. I'm so glad you asked for help and Barney stepped up to the plate. Rock on you guys!

    Hugs,
    TL

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    1. I'd rock on TL, but I'm afraid I might hurt something. It has been a while since I exercised after all.

      I enjoyed the movie and the couch very much.

      Returning the hugs
      Willie

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  3. Yay for you! I don't know that I could actually ASK for a spanking like that! Brave girl (have you been drinking again??? lol) Glad to hear that you are reset again though.

    I concur on the teenagers thing!!!! (And I too find myself growling alot) I'm going to be completely grey by the time our 4 are out of the house and I've only just entered the teen years.

    P

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    1. Drinking? Ack!!! I've even been drinking my sparkling water out of a tumbler lately...Nooooooooooo thanks.

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  4. Wilma, I am happy to hear you have been reset! Nothing better then a stingy tush and a cuddle couch movie to help one re-start. As for that Prince of yours causing you trouble, know that this to will pass and I am speaking from experience. I was pretty sure one of my Shrek's wasn't coming out alive or I wasn't and although it was very trying and there were days I wanted to throw in the towel it worked out and now he is one of my most favorite people to have around! Keep spanking oh I meant keep thanking!

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    1. Hi Cathie!

      You know a year ago I would have been scratching my head at this statement, " nothing better then a stingy tush and a cuddle couch movie to help one". LOL

      Thank you for the words of wisdom. He already is one of my favourite people- seriously the kid is hilarious, I just don't want to loose that-even if it is for only a few years...sigh

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  5. I don't know why, and I don't know how, and not many people would understand - but there is something comforting about needing that release and being able to go to your HoH, and know that he will take care of you and you'll be able to feel better.

    I had the same kind of day today...must be in the air - schnoots to hormones.

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    1. I have stop trying to figure this out. I suppose it doesn't really matter as long as it works. As for understanding people, you're right- thankfully we have here to talk about it.

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  6. Glad things are better and you enjoyed being together.

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  7. Wilma, I am so happy you got your movie and your reset:)
    Love, Bea

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    1. Thanks Bea.

      What can I say. It works...er um, ya know for me *wink*

      Love
      Willie

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  8. WOW, things have really changed around the Rubble house the last few weeks!
    Actually, it sounds like there has been alot of growth from both of you.
    I am very happy for you and I hope you are feeling better.
    Emma

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    1. Huh? So very formal and serious Emma...are you well?

      Lots of change? I'm not entirely sure. There is more of a comfort around spanking ( not punishment wise ). There is still much more to learn about ourselves and each other. But we are plugging along.

      *LOVE*
      Willie

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  9. I think this is just awesome. I am going to have Ryan read this...because I can so relate to what you have written here. At times I just feel something churning....like I KNOW what I need....but I have never been so brave as to just ask for it...although it usually ends up that way! I think in our earliest days of ttwd...he thought I was crazy for being able to be essentially reset through a spanking...but he is now a believer! Yay for you and Barney :)

    Love ya much....

    ~Lucy

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    1. Hmmm? Maybe you need a symbol so you don't have to actually ask like placing the ceramic penquin on the kitchen counter..or a code phrase, like " The eagle flies at dawn"..

      It wasn't scary at all to ask Barney actually. Mind you I have said before, that my spankings and yours or others here might be quite different. What motivated me was the fear that I would push...or almost brat, without realizing it...thus damaging the ground we gained, if he didn't follow through. Also I didn't want him to be in that position so soon again.

      We have open communication during a 'reset' I guess, and it maybe even that I am in a bit of control of the situation, which might not be right- but for now that is how it is. Who knows further down the line I may think there is no flippin' way I'm asking!

      Love Ya too ( psst hi Ryan--ya know just in case he stops by)

      Willie

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  10. That sounds completely wonderful! but.. wow... I don't know that I've ever braved asking for a reset... You are leaps and bounds above me in that area for sure!
    You guys will be old pros in no time! LOL

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    1. Emi, you have obviously thought of asking because you think it sounds completely wonderful, so I don't think I am leaps and bounds ahead at all. I never thought about asking for a spanking before. Not about a reset. It just sort of happened I guess. It may never happen again. Who knows?

      We are old...but probably too old to be pros at anything!

      Love
      Willie

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  11. Willie - It was thinking, not over-thinking! So proud of you for asking for the reset.

    Ya know, as Barney gets more comfortable and grows more into that HoH hat, don't think he is going to appreciate his efforts being laughed at. I know, you're not laughing at him but hey, you asked for it, he's making the effort and you're laughing? He may decide to make sure you haven't got anything to laugh about. Just sayin'...

    Teenagers grrrr You will survive and so will they, if they're lucky. Mine were lucky but there were several close calls. LOL Good luck with that.

    Keep asking for what you need and with teenagers, you might need A LOT. You are doing great!

    Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. I know again with the laughing right? But I think it in itself is some sort of release. Perhaps nervous laughter? Besides the sound really was funny... Barney, once again took it in stride. THIS time however he did follow up my outburst with a flurry of smacks...kinda forgot about the noise at that point.

      For the rest of the month, it seems I'll have LOTS of company in my house, as *someone* is not allowed to leave it...so that alone might have me craving another reset!

      Love
      Willie

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  12. First of all...I remember percolated coffee pots like that for our daily coffee, not camping coffee! I understand everything you said, I'm glad you were able to reset and enjoy a happy afternoon together!

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    1. I had a whole other sentence mentioning the percolator but took it out. We had a corningware one- white with blue flowers on it growing up.
      Now we just have one for camping.
      Thanks Minelle
      Love Willie

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  13. You two rock. Love this entire post. And movie snuggling is one of my favorites, too!

    Elisa xo

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    1. Again with the rocking....lol

      It all 'ended' quite well yes.
      *wink*
      Willie

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  14. Well done Willie and Barney!! I have never asked for a reset..don't know if I can. Though I do think I might play up a bit instead to get a 'reset'...bratting as you have just typed to me...ah, yes...I guess so. I shake my head in shame :)

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    1. Well maybe you should ask Silence what he would think if you did ask for a reset? Open the window for a possibility for you to do so. I mean it has to be better than a punishment right? AND no 'bratting' required..

      Listen to me. Like I have any clue what I am talking about....NOT

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  15. This is a wonderful moment you described between you and Barney, Willie. Being able to go to him and ask for what you need, and he to provide it in such a loving way, is such a beautiful thing. It speaks to the strength of your relationship in dd that you have come to a place where you feel "safe" enough (meaning you don't feel embarrassed or ashamed) to ask of your husband what only he can give you.
    I am very proud of you, Willie!
    hugs
    lillie

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    1. Awww thanks Lillie. Your praise means a great deal.

      Yes I suppose you are right. Although I might have been pulled over for being out in public while under the influence if the police saw me walking up the stairs of our house to our bedroom- probably trance-like. No I wasn't scared, but one moment I was in the basement with the paddle, the next thing I was in our bedroom handing it to him. I have no recollection of the walk Odd..

      My love
      Willie

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  16. Hi Wilma, I am clapping and jumping up and down here. Good on you for going to Barney and asking for a reset, that's certainly not easy to do. Bravo to Barney, I'm so glad you got what you needed. Nice snuggle time on the couch with the movie too - awesome!

    Things have definitely changed in Bedrock, you two have grown over the last wee while. So proud of both of you! Sounds as though you are also discovering the 'fun' side of ttwd. We have playful arguments, banter and feistiness (on my part) all the time too.

    Hugs
    Roz

    BTW - we used to have one of those coffee percs growing up.

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    1. Hey Roz!

      I'm so happy my sore bum has you bouncing around like Richard Simmons. I did enjoy the couch after MUCH more than the road to reset! lol

      Thanks for the compliment on our growth, but as you know this is just one aspect of ttwd. I don't anyone scratching their head next week ( please be that long) if I have some other break down..lol
      Love
      Willie

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  17. I'm so proud of you Willie! I have always had a very hard time doing this. In fact, I think I've gone to him one time. ONE TIME! Look at you, being able to tell him what you need and figure it out, think it through but not over-think it.

    Giant bit grin on my face. Good job to both of you!

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    1. Thanks Susie!

      Who knows? Maybe this *is* my one time too :) As for figuring it out, yes I was this time- I hope the next time I am able to figure it out too, but one never knows.

      Your (odd) happiness is contagious. I'm smiling now too.

      Love
      Willie

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  18. Glad you got your reset. Don't tell fireman, lol, but I swear there are sometimes I could use one everyday! I hate those feelings, but I'm glad we both have great HoHs who will fix it for us!

    Hugs,
    Elle

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    1. I won't tell Fireman, but maybe you should? LOL

      Hugs
      Willie

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    2. Lol, nah ;)

      Ha. No, I absolutely will if I need to! I promised him I would :)

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  19. Sometimes, it's the simple things! Glad you got the reset you needed...and the snuggle and movie time too:)

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    1. Welcome back Tess!

      I'm not sure how the day would have ended up before ttwd, but it was a nice afternoon that is for sure

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  20. I saw the title of this post and thought "Uhoh!" Now why should I think that, when it should be a good thing to get what one asks for. But somehow when that thing is a spanking I always have mixed feelings. That said, I'm glad you got what you needed Wilma. ;)

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    1. Welcome Grace.

      Yes it is most unusually how ttwd alters how we feel about things now...Oh no she gets what she wants...Yikes she gets what she wants...phew she gets what she wants...LOL

      Willie

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  21. Great to feel that reset. And all you had to do was ask for it. And then the simple joys of life feel so much better!

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    1. Gee Bas, it is almost like you know what it is like *wink*

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  22. Yes, I too remember those coffee pots. I think we still have one somewhere.

    And I think we have a ping pong bat somewhere too.

    I have to tell you that I am beginning to crawl right out of my skin at the moment. We haven't be able to have a reset now for nearly two weeks and I just want to scream with itchiness. There is ALWAYS someone around, or an interruption! My submissiveness will only go so far!!!!

    If you tell me to have patience I will scream!

    I understand you perfectly. But...!!!

    Hugs, Ami

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