Saturday, September 7, 2013

I Mean EVERYONE Knows you.....

After some heavy posts I thought I'd share what happen a couple of weeks ago in our house.  Oh fear not some very 'heavish' stuff happened here the other day which I will probably write about soon, once I can catch my breath again....

Barney and I were laying in bed.  I had my head on his chest

 
 
Much like this couple, only without the Masterlife thing, his right hand resting on my hip. Well he has more hair on his chest and less on his head.  Actually I have WAY more hair on my head!  I mention this because he kept "pfth , pfth, pfthing"  as my frizzy curls kept making their way into his mouth.

The noise he was making reminded me of a conversation I had online with a Dd wifey friend of ours.  I raised my head,relieving him briefly of his pfthing... ( I mean honestly the way he was carrying on you'd think he had just walked through a spider web!)




Me " Oh, Oh. Oh!  I forgot to tell you about a conversation I had in chat yesterday with ******* !"

He just chuckled. " Okay"

(This is an by memory account of our conversation;)

Her " Oh you'll never guess what I did on Saturday."

Me " Okay, I'll bite"

Her " I pffft ( her husband)"

Me " You WHAT????"

Her " I know"

ME " Why on earth would you do that???"

Her " I don't know!!"

Me" Well? "

Her " He said ...." Well Willie maybe able to get away with that.......for now, BUT you..."

Me " HE SAID WHAT? !!!  I DON''T pffffft BARNEY!!!! Well not outside of print on the blog"

At this point in the story Barney, chuckling looks me in the eye and very seriously says, " No you don't.  That would be very disrespectful." Then he chuckled again, " But you do like to on the blog"

Me to him..." Yeah,...anyway"

Him, " Yes, sorry. Continue"

Me to him " Right so I typed back in all caps: YOU TELL HIM THAT RIGHT NOW!  I DON'T NEED HIM THINKING...sheesh, I mean C'MON! "

Her " I DID TELL HIM ! "

Barney began chuckling again about my silly conversation with our friend, or perhaps that it had me so worked up.  I lay back down on his chest and started to settle down, recovering from my animated, mocked outrage.  His hand went back to my hip.

Me, in  a sleepier voice.  " I mean honestly, why would she do that?  Pfffting HIM of all people ? "

Barney, still clearly amused, " I'm not sure- momentary lapse of reason? "

ME, " Still, such and obvious way to get in trouble"

Barney, " Umhmm"

Me, yawning, " Everyone knows, you wait until you turn around and then silently roll your eyes so you ....



" HEY!" ~ very much awake again

A rather amused chuckle from above







***  Over the past few weeks with the posts that summed up our Summer of Suckiness, I wanted to publically thank those of you who sent me emails, not only offering me support, but for telling me that you too have been there , or are going through similar things.  Those type of comments are so supportive. Maybe  more than you know.  It is difficult to continually type out 'downer-type' posts.  I realize a great majority don't want to revisit with these type of posts.  Knowing that a few of you out there ( while I'm not happy that you are going through a difficult time) have taken comfort in knowing that TTWD can be more of a struggle for some more than others finding a flow because of my posts, gives me strength to keep my fortitude in retelling all the messiness that happens here.   So Thank you for reaching out and sharing you stories with me too.

45 comments:

  1. To be perfectly honest, it's the *always* Stepford Wife all-is-rosy-in-lala-land blogs that I find the most difficult to come to terms with. I say this because for me life is never that perfect and text book and I think those blogs make me feel inadequate and maybe slightly envious.

    It's not that I donlt like a good success story now and then, but, if that comes from a not so perfect place with which I can personally identify, it gives me hope that I'm nothing unusual and that you *can* recover from the down periods.

    If, in the process, I can offer someone else help and support in working their way through something I've experienced (I know that I haven't done that here) then it's even better.

    Rosalind

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    1. Well thank you Rosalind. I know the old saying "misery loves company" doesn't apply in this community, but the feeling that we are alone in our struggles certainly does sometimes. It would be nice to write a success story some day! But I keep telling myself we took many years to get where we are both personally and in our marriage, so I can't expect us to change over night...or even in the course of a year.
      It appears we like to find every possible road block and 'test it out' . LOL

      willie

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  2. I totally agree with Rosalind...Noone has a perfect life..I honestly do know a couple that WAS married 24yrs and never had a real argument then pretty much one day he said he wanted a divorce!!! Crazy huh? Without argument we can't grow..

    I enjoy hearing that I'm not the only one that had arguments with my hubs or my kids drive me insane ..I'm glad others kids drive them insane too..rotfl

    anyway hugs and summer was a rough one for a lot of us

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    1. What the flip? No one has a perfect life? Well THAT would have been helpful to know in the spring! *wink*

      Sadly I know more than just one of those marriage/divorce stories Daisy. I would suppose the husband just shutdown and shut out long enough to get by. Sad. I personally don't like the entire argument thing. My parent's rarely argued. But I don't like confrontation. TTWD however,um well it has given me a bit of a voice! LOL. We have curt discussions. Let's call them that.
      Do NOT...I repeat do NOT get me started on kids driving you insane...URGH...

      The Summer of Suckiness is over thank goodness!

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  3. LOL love your conversation, very cute. That Barney can be so funny. :) Smack, lol. Not fair how those smacks can come out of no where! lol

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    1. I have to admit, my HEY was in mocking. His hand actually hit my hipbone. I think he might have been the one grimacing.

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  4. Hey Willie
    Remember you make me feel normal!
    I think it's so good that you share it 'warts and all'.
    I think expectations for summer ( and Chriatmas come to think of it) are always too high.

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    1. Oh Janey...I do? Good grief! Do you think we can get a group discount on therapy if we are the new normal? LOL

      Oh GREAT now you have me worried about Christmas! *wink*

      Thanks Janey, as always you made my day.

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  5. Loved your story!!!

    I hope the Summer of Suckiness is officially over, never to return. Glad you're better :)

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    1. Thanks Sarah!

      Yeah the Summer of Suckiness was official brought to a close in the middle of August. Well pretty much when Mother Nature decided to end our summer here!

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  6. Cute story. Glad you are feeling better. Summer of suckiness are no fun.

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    1. Okay next year we are going to have to come up with some TTWD Wives 'witch' dance to ward off the evil Suckiness spirits! Oh we can just get together and drink spirits!

      Thanks Zoe

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  7. Those random smacks,can really catch you off guard! Don't tell Rog but I kinda like like them, much better then a full punishment spanking sometimes. Your definitely not alone on having rough times through this p. I'm glad your feeling better and hope the fall and winter to better for you.
    Kim

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    1. Thank you Kim.

      Barney hasn't ever really been a random smacker. He is hit and miss ( bwahaha) now a bit more.

      willie

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  8. Pfft.

    ;-)

    Willie, I don't tell you nearly often enough how much you are appreciated. Consider yourself TOLD.

    This was a cool post. I like your little slices of life.

    Barney and the other HoH (if you don't mind relaying this, Willie), I want you to know that, sometimes, "Pfft" is not at all disrespectful or even directed at anyone else (in Willie's case, that would be you). Sometimes, "pfft" is merely an expression of general exasperation with our own confusion, inability to understand, or adequately communicate. It's a physical clearing of the mind - like letting a little air out of a balloon that is over-filled or activating a release valve, if you will.

    Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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    1. Sheesh BCF ( Bossy Caring Friend) alert! Yes ma'am I've been told.

      Oh my pffft's are not so innocent Irishey. BUT they are only done in jest while poking the bear. For now at least. I am afraid I might have inadvertently added to my friend's repertoire however. Good news for her, I told her I would take her under my wing and teach her to be an angel like myself. *wink*

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  9. Oh Willie, I can't believe that you let out our eye rolling secrets, you deserved that smack sweetie.lol. I am glad your summer of suckiness is over lets hope an autumn of 'appiness follows ( yes I know but I couldn't think of an a so I did a cockney accent and dropped the H. I am after all not as talented as Renee Rose!!). Much love
    Jan.xx

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    1. Well over here it is French Canadian to drop the H so I understood completely Jan!

      love
      willie

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  10. Hi Willy, :)

    I'm with Irishey. Sometimes those expressions of frustration are useful release and don't necessarily have to be disrespectful if delivered a certain way. Kind of like how I use the term "fine" around here at times.

    I am more than glad that your sucky summer has gone and wish you a FABULOUS fall or an AMAZING autumn. You choose! ;)

    LOL on your SMACK! I seem to get lots of those these days. While they can deliver a swift sting to the posterior region, I do love to hear that HoH chuckle. It makes me smile! Behave now!! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Phew, if you agree with Irishey, then I'll just direct you to my comment there!

      as for Behaving? Pfffffffffft! As *if* you even have to say that!

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    1. Helllllllllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooooooooooooo Bea!

      Thanks :)

      love back
      willie

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  12. I'm sitting here with "red ears" because I got entirely the wrong connotation of you "pffting" your husband. Oh golly. The more I read the more I read it wrong!

    Look, I've just had ten people for a full English Sunday lunch including my MIL and my SIL, so no wonder my brains are addled!

    I have to tell you that I hate it when I get hairs in my mouth; but they are not usually mine as I am married to "Hairy Monster Man".

    Many hugs

    Ami

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    1. Omg! Ami, you're a riot! My mind didn't even go there until I read this! And, maybe you didn't mean to go where my mind went...meh. Okay, for the record, hair in the mouth - complete distraction, gotta get it out NOW! before it activates that gag reflex. ;-)

      Sorry I took your post below the belt, Willie. Ami helped!

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    2. Good grief! LOL... Yes I am THAT woman...FARTING on my husband...and in PRINT no less! bwahahaha...and Ami, I think many of us have had to deal with um, well the other. It is so romantic isn't it? Trying to 'find' said hair. I envision myself as some dog trying to cough up a hair ball!

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  13. Hee hee hee Barney is SO onto you Willie!!

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  14. Hi Willie,

    Sorry, I'm trying to stop laughing and regain my composure having just read Ami and Irishey's comments before I can make a coherent comment LoL.

    OK .. a-hem ... Very cute story and I love the way you told it. I love these kinds of conversations and moments and isn't it amazing the topics we come up with during chat sessions LoL. Sorry but I did giggle at the surprise smack followed by Barney chuckling. You told Barney the eye rolling secret ... seriously?

    I both admire and appreciate the honesty in your posts because ttwd, and life, is messy sometimes and it is difficult to write about that stuff. It's reassuring and a great comfort to know that others go through struggles too and that they can be overcome. I think it's wonderful to share the difficult times and learnings from them so that it may help others.

    I'm so glad your summer of suckiness is behind you and hope, as Jan said, an autumn of happiness (with the h Lol) follows. I want to apologise too as I feel I wasn't 'around' or as supportive as I would have like to have been.

    Love and Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Silly woman! You are my friend, and my good one at that. You know what, you WERE there. I know and take comfort that I can reach out to you anytime I want to and you will be there. You my friend have had a less than stellar winter south of the equator. We can't be everywhere to everyone you know!

      Now stop with the guilt!

      love ya,
      willie

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  15. welllll. i have never pfftttt my professor, but maybe if i'm interested in getting spanked i'll give it a try soon. lol it definitely seems like a sure-fire way to get OTK right-quick!

    i know your summer was sucky. me too girl, me too. but you knew that too. eight weeks, willie! EIGHT WEEKS. dang. it can sure make a girl go pfffttttt! :)

    hugs,
    m.

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  16. I KNOW!!! I may have coined the phrase Summer of Suckiness, but I know first hand I wasn't alone. Sad but true.

    Yeah 8 weeks! I know!!!!! I know!!!! Lordy I know it was 8 weeks for you! LOL. I'd be more pfffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffing all over the house if I had been you. Or perhaps Barney, " hup,hup,huping" for air under his pillow.

    hugs back
    willie

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  17. That is right Willie..you do wait until they turn their back before you roll your eyes!!! Not that I am an eye roller....and you never NEVER EVER pffftttt!! :)

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    1. I get the distinct feeling I am being mocked here!

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    2. Should not have read this post you know...as that night I pfftttt'ed the HoH....seriously...who does that?
      And no, why now would I be mocking you Willie :)

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    3. Oh for the love of Pete! BLAME WILLIE....Willie *gave* me this horrible implement that Silence likes too much....WILLIE taught me to "pfffft". Okay that second one just sound all wrong.

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  18. I have been reading your blog for months and wanted to delurk myself and say hi... I can so identify with this post, as I can't even count how many conversations my hubby and I have had in that position with the same out come. :0) Completely relaxed having a lovely conversation then....SMACK.

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  19. Well WELCOME IRISH !

    Wow lurking for months? Please,please tell me you started reading before all my summertime whining. I promise I am not all doom and gloom!

    I'm happy you can identify with this post. Despite being 'at this' for almost a year, this was relatively new to me :)

    I hope you stay 'unlurked' <~ spell check tells me that is not a word...Pfffft !
    willie

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  20. You go Barney! LOL.

    Now Wilma, it is shocking that you would be such a bad influence on a sweet but sponge like friend, who takes on these horrible habits so easily. Shocking.

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  21. Hmmmm? You know this friend of mine ( self professed sweet and all) has a tad bit of influence herself. Last night I found myself Pah-ing someone. She usually Bahs...but what can I say, I like things my own!

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  22. Hi Willie, you are one in a million....no wait if you lived in China that would mean there were a thousand others just like you and we all know you are far more unique than that.....which is why we love you!!!!

    Hugs,
    George

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  23. You know George, I was about to ask you if you believe in Divine Intervention~ but I already know the answer to that. I don't know how else to explain it. Whenever I am needing it, you managed to stop by at just the right time and say just the right thing.

    Thank you so much!

    love
    willie.

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  24. Pfffft! Rolling eyes!!!! Add in attitude....Ahemmmm...What is this about hairs? OMG scattered here...no advice!
    Glad you feel better!

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  25. You and Ami and the hair, Good GRIEF!!!

    and WHAT is this attitude, pray tell you not so subtly implying?

    Thanks!

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