Friday, June 7, 2013

Really? This is a post? bwhahaa...

I just wanted to share a few things that really have stuck with me.  I swear I keep my face book account just to get things for my blog!  But before that I suppose I should update a bit.

Last week was interesting and NOT all at the same time.  How is that possible?  Well life is NEVER boring with 3 hormonal teenage or preteen boys, a bipolar dog on thyroid medication, and well....ME ( I think that last point is pretty self explanatory right?).



In Barney's line of work his days off rarely fall on the weekend.  For years that used to bother both of us, as we have a very active social life, ( I know shocking for a wallflower such as myself).  I of course, would still fill the void in our friend's lives by attending, but Barney would be hard at work.  Never ONCE did he complain or resent me going.  Anyway, now we cherish our times off during the week together BECAUSE there is no social functions we feel obligated to attend.  If I do go to any, I make sure I am home in time to see him walk through the door if possible.  Another added benefit, our darling three sons are at school during the week!

This week his days off fell in the middle of the week.  I don't 'work' outside of our home but in the summer time I do volunteer my time in our community.  Over time the committee I used to head has now become ONE and her willing/ not so willing  husband.  NO, no I didn't scare people off, or at least I don't think I did, I was just a" I've got this" girl, so they let me.  Now no one even asks anymore to help.  So I had all this 'work' I needed to do.  All of it relies heavily on what the weather conditions are like.  I am not sure about where you live, but this year where I live I think we had summer for 4 days.  Ah, it was grand!  This week we saw a glimpse of summer on Barney's first day off.  Whooo hooo!  Oh I so much to do, and he could help.  Only I suggested we NOT do what I needed to do.  We spend it together doing fun things..

In an unrelated event, Barney had r/a or maintainace planned for that day too. We took care of that first.  I alluded to a blister I had had in my last post.  Barney was mindful of my healing area.  The spanking was ouchy, but never once did I scream in my head " okay you can just about stop now"  or did I clench the covers of my bed.  I did feel myself  starting to drift towards the 'subspace' again, but pulled myself back. Why you ask?  I think I don't like not being in control.  Okay I KNOW I don't like not being in control but especially with my body. 

After my spanking I didn't feel any different.  I began to wonder.  Did it 'work'?  For those who don't know, I am usually the one who has to wait an hour before my brain gets the message that my bum was part of a reset action.  Nope an hour later, while any anxiety I had was a distant memory, I didn't 'feel' any different.  Well obviously my BUM did, but I didn't.   After pondering for a while....

and talking to a friend, I came to the conclusion that I didn't feel any different because I was truly maintained.  In the past Barney as waited for me to distance, which I have also come to the conclusion in my case can be a form of a silent temper tantrum, before he steps in.  This time r/a was scheduled at a very fortuitous time. 

During our last cook together night, while we were -stuffing our faces with stuffed mushrooms- , enjoying our appetizers I had retrieved a beer for Barney from the fridge and poured in a frosty mug as they weren't that cold.  He asked me if I was going to join him in a drink. I chose a hard cider ( zip it Lucy!).  My drink was cold so there really was no need for a frosty mug.  Before sitting down, I asked him if he wanted me to pour mine in a glass.

" No.  Why would I want you to do that?  It is cold enough for you isn't it? "

" Oh yeah, I don't know ?  I guess I thought I may seem a little 'rough'.  You know your wife drinking from a bottle ?" ( Don't get me wrong here people I have been drinking beer, coolers, cider, pop ( oops pardon my Canadian... soda)  from a can or bottle for years.  We camp, garden, play sports,all while enjoying a beverage, so it just makes sense. )

After a few minutes of sitting and chatting Barney, who had been staring at me for quite some time  said,

" You know what?  Yes.  Yes I think I would like you to pour that in a glass"

LOL!  I think it is just one of those things that makes us appear 'softer'.  On his day off when were were on our postage stamp deck, I went to get myself a drink, I asked again if he wanted me to pour it in a glass.  This time there was NO hesitation.

" Yes I would . Thank you"

Alrighty then, no need to ask anymore I guess.  *wink*

We had a wonderful dinner on his day off and a mini fire ( no Roz our backyard was not ablaze!) after. I brought up one of our camping lounge chairs, that was actually broken..oops.  We rigged it to work, and I lay on him in my nighty under a blanket as we talked and looked at our fire.  I soon fell asleep.  Ahhhhhhhhhhhh, it was great to have my mechanic maintain me.

HOWEVER.....two days later.....I was getting 'spinny' as Susie would say.  I still get anxious when I know we are not going to be alone for any length of time.  The boys have a 3 day weekend....then our oldest will be done school.  I am the type that apparently needs marathon reconnection appointments ( spankings) to get through my thick skull.  While we have silent implements, a leather looping Johnny from John at Leather Thorn

they are stingy and don't seem to 'reach' me like the wooden paddles do.   Something that is a little too loud to use when the boys are home.  You see Betsy may live in a shoe, but Willie lives in a shoebox!   ( Side note about the leather paddles, they are beautifully made, reasonably priced and Barney uses the leather paddle with the wooden one from Blondie's to mix it up)

Sorry.  Where was I ? Oh so while driving with Barney to work, he asked me what was wrong.  I curtly answered nothing, I was just in a bad mood.  Before getting out, he said,

" Well if your mood hasn't changed, by the time I am done work, maybe I can help you out with that when I get home if you want.  Okay? "  (tyrant!)

All day I was at a loss.  Did I want to be spanked?  Well actually I hate being spanked when the boys are home at night, because in my experience really doesn't help that much.  Did I need to be spanked? I'll let you figure that out on your own.  I wasn't feeling well so I really didn't want to do anything but go to bed when he got home.  BUT part of me did want him to get back into the practice of spanking when the boys are home, because summer break is just around the corner.  There was also a large part of me that was afraid I would think he would decide he wasn't going to after I had made my mind up that I needed/wanted to...and that would send me spiralling.  No I wasn't going to think about it, or bring it up.   As it turns out by the time I picked him up from work I was exhausted.  So it was the furthest thing from my mind.  Nothing was said, and no disappointment was had.  Do I still feel spinny?  I think a little, but I can make it until Monday I suppose. 

I was spinny during the day because I was thinking of how we discussed not going too many days without...but it looks like we are back to that pattern.  I was thinking about how he said a while ago that before the weekend we would do r/a ( because I generally deal with teenage boys and their social lives alone all weekend ie. CONTROL) and a reset after the weekend to remind me I don't have to be in control, and how this has only happened once.  I remembered how we discussed how I was 3 steps ahead in planning and he was the right now kind of guy when it came to ttwd.  So some habits are hard to break.  That being said, somehow I managed to rein myself in.....

 
AND....I reminded myself while cleaning snail dust out of my eyes once again that....



And now my ultimate favourite quote, by my third favourite dyslexic.....


 
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Oh....ps.  Susie and I use the code name Banana for spankings.  I thought I would share because it can be quite funny and well it BUGS Lucy.  You should try it...Like, " You deserve a good girl banana tonight"
or
" I guess that banana you had last night wasn't long enough...."
or
 
" Don't look at me with those, you are going to get a banana if you don't stop eyes!"
 
So  I found these at Old Navy the other day if anyone wants to send a message to their husbands that they need a little 'help'
 
 

42 comments:

  1. Thats what you meant when you said you probably needed a banana!! I thought your potassium was low. Why am I always the last one to know these things?

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    1. You don't even want to know what *I* thought when she said that! ;)

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    2. Oh Lillie, what do you mean we have't let you 'in'. Surely you jest! Well that is in the past, never look at a banana the same way again. You're welcome by the way.

      ( and eeeeek, no love or hugs in the sign of from you....boy did I ever screw up..(wink)

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    3. Look at here filthy minded Lucy, we can't help it if *that* is the only thing on your mind all the time. Sheesh 4 kids not enough?

      As I explained to you, "do you want a cantaloupe or a blueberry" just doesn't have the same 'ring' to it...

      @Betsy..I know right?

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  2. LOVE that Einstein quote. It's sweet how those times you get to spend together during the week have become so special and looked forward to. Good luck this weekend Willie! :)

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    1. I love the Einstein quote too.

      The weekend was pretty good. Monday, a new week...um, off to an 'interesting' start. Sigh

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  3. Hi Willie!

    I love those three quotes! I am writing them down!
    Bananas. I love bananas, but I hate THE banana! Hahahaha!! Now I'm going bananas! Ok, I'm in a goofy mood as you can see.. Sorry... lol

    ~Silly Pink~

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    1. HEY PINK!

      Yeah, focus on the silliness aspect of it, because, well because! LOL.

      The other night we were out and a friend of ours was discussing this new cocktail he 'created' and it had a banana in it. He must of went on for 10 minutes about the benefits of bananas. I was going to loose it. Barney sat there oblivious. I had to text Betsy for some relief from someone 'in the know'

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  4. Hi Willie,

    Great post and I love all the quotes. Where would all the HoH's be without their feisty TiH's. BTW, I decided to look up "feisty TiH" in the dictionary and lo and behold there was a picture if Wilma!!! LOL!

    May your summer be filled with fun, family, and of course banana's!

    Hugs,

    George

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    1. Gasp! Shock! Horror ! Just what are you saying George? Surely you jest! The rumours are present for a reason. *I* sir am an angel!!!!

      May my summers be filled with bananas? I thought we were friends? Okay so maybe I *might* require the odd one, but still George...sheeesh!

      hugs,
      willie

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  5. Willie, I was going to say you were nuts, but actually bananas fits the bill beautifully. It must be much warmer where you are if you can sleep outside under a blanket! Grief, you'd freeze to death here even if you were in the middle with a whole ring of camp fires around you!

    I am so glad I am learning to talk Canadian. Bananas, bananas, bananas, what next?!

    Many hugs

    Ami

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    1. Well Ami, I am nuts, but that is for another post, another time :)

      The weather here is still very much 'meh' for this time of year. But we are scraping any bit of warmth out of it we can. It appears to rain for 7 days, sunny for one or two, and repeat.

      Soggy hugs
      willie

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  6. Hahaha! This was so fun to read! And thanks for the link by the way :)

    It's definitely hard to share the house with the kids and figure out how to have your privacy as well. I think we'll be encouraging our kids to go to the beach, the mall, the movies - all together - most of the summer, lol!

    I LOVE your banana code word!

    :) Cali

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    1. OH I'm happy you liked the post :)

      Well the boys are often out of the house at the same time, whether or not my husband takes note will be key here.

      Thanks, I am kind of partial to the code word myself!

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  7. Lol!!! Banana!!!! Lol! We do what we have to do, right. Make the most of the kid free moments and come up with really good excuses when we get caught. :)
    I love the Einstein quote as well.
    Great post!

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    1. Get caught? Good grief...Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

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  8. You always have such creative posts. :) Bananas is a cute 'signal', but what happens if he asks you if you want to go for a banana split...

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    1. AH HA! I don't like banana splits! Or after banana sits either for that matter.

      Thanks Rogue.

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  9. Banana is funny :) I should've thought of a funnier word when we came up with our code word :)
    Love your new header (is that what it's called, lol?) :)

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    1. LOL..thanks elle. It is called a banner I think.

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  10. I was looking at a bruised banana this morning contemplating toast and banana.
    Don't try and figure it out...lol
    Glad you and Barney had alone time under the stars.

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    1. Okay Minelle, thanks for the by. I would be trying to make sense of what you said.

      Had some more alone time last night too. Complete with fire and fire flies!

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  11. LoL Willie,

    This was fun to read, you are so creative with your posts. A-hem ... in my defence, you did simply say "we had a fire" LoL.

    So you conned Susie into using the word banana huh? I remember you suggested to me once that Rick and I use it as a code. I just can't imagine saying "Honey, I think I need you to give me a banana".

    Good on you for realising why you were start to spin and turning it around. Good on Barney too for not waiting until you were in full spin cycle (sorry, must be the new washing machine on my brain!) before acting.

    Asking Barney if he preferred you to drink from a glass rather than the bottle/can. You're better than me. I don't ask .. but I do ask Rick if HE wants a glass LoL.

    Sounds as though you two are in a really good place. I'm so happy for you and I'm sure you will work a way around the boys being home more often.

    Love the quotes btw.

    Love and Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Yes I *finally* convinced someone to come around to my line of thinking concerning the banana code word. You and Lucy and the rest of the nay sayers go stand over there-->

      Meh, I don't ask anymore, I just do, as far as the glass goes. I do ask him too. Now more than often he says no for himself. I think he's doing it on purpose!

      We had a good weekend, but today hasn't started out so wonderful. One banana down, apparently a follow up banana tonight. We 'ran' out of banana time, and this last banana left me in a bad place. Also I am getting a banana because I don't have faith in something he said, due to lack of banana action in the past if you ask me. I think the banana history speaks for itself. However my husband has decided that the proof is in the banana!

      Pffft.

      hugs and loves
      willie

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  12. Well I was going to leave a lovely comment.....but then you told me to zip it..... ;) (If you only knew that was all you had to say to shut me up....) ha!

    But I do have to say before I go....I think the whole banana thing is a little obscene. I just think you could have picked a more *appropriate* fruit....okay.... I am off to enjoy a mommy drink...poured into a very feminine glass ;)

    zipping it now. o_o



    ~Lucy

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    1. I hope you are enjoying your martini!

      Well *again*. " Do you want a blueberry" just doesn't have the same feel to it!

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  13. i laughed out loud at this and am so glad you're on better footing these days. :) there's nothing better than being in a good place, and obviously it's all these bananas you're having! :) lol

    by the way, we have those shorts. my daughter wears them to bed all the time. we also have the pears and the flowers. lol small world. :)

    happy weekend!
    m.

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    1. Barney seems to agree with your 'all your bananas' theory. So much so he is handing them out today like a vendor in some tropical market place !

      So question is, now when you see your daughter's shorts in the laundry, are you going to look at them any differently?

      We did have a great weekend...thanks!
      w

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  14. Awww, I am so glad you and Barney are in a great place :) It's always so encouraging to read posts like this one :) I seriously don't think I can ever look at bananas the same way ever again lol. Also, we say "Pop" in my neck of the woods too LOL.

    -Marie

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    1. OH thank goodness another 'pop' person! This soda thing makes me feel like I am in 1950. Okay, okay, so my lifestyle choice may reflect that somewhat too, but my VOCABULARY doesn't need to! Sheesh!!!

      As for the banana thing- you're welcome. Just my way of ensuring I am with you FOREVER!!!! lol

      willie

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  15. My Mom always said...Ladies don't drink from a bottle. It's one of those things that stuck with me, and my girls think I'm nuts lol.

    I'm glad you cleared up the banana thing. I thought y'all were practicing other activities...Bwahahahaha;)

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    1. Perhaps your Mom should have also added for your benefit, " Ladies don't *finish* the bottle" as well.

      and...you LIE! lol...go stand over there with your fellow perv. Lucy ---->

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  16. I sometimes ask for a spanking. It is a very recent development over here... Or sometimes he volunteers one such as Barney did. :)

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    1. I have asked for a banana...c'mon Sara, get with the lingo! *wink*. I am now at the stubborn portion of our adventure again. No asking at the moment. Not for something he said he was going to do. :)

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  17. You are so good at your funny escapades. I laugh every time I read your blog. Love the quotes

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    1. You know what is funny Blondie, I didn't see this post as amusing. I thought people were going to read it and think, 'meh'.

      Shows you how much I know!

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  18. love the quotes. and happy bananas! :-)

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  19. 1. I think you should give into the subspace thing and see what happens. It could be interesting and fun. Well...fun in a relative sense. Still ends in a sore bum.

    2. I am very happy to see that you are gathering more banana converts.

    3. Barney makes me laugh with his understated threats of bananas.

    4. When he got home last night MM asked if you really were going to get a second banana in one day. He actually used the word banana.

    Bwahaha.

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