Tuesday, November 12, 2013

You Whooooooooo? Yeah you!


A year ago I sat here and wrote my very first Love Our Lurkers post.  I felt absolutely ridiculous in some ways for doing it.  After all I had only been blogging for 7 weeks at that point.  I suppose the good thing was I remembered quite easily what it was like to be a lurker.  Here I sit a year later and I wonder what I can add or say differently.

Obviously I was once like you.  I read blogs.  I felt I knew everyone here, but no one knew me.  At the time ( I was a lurker) I was not in a ttwd relationship, in fact my husband didn't even know this corner of cyberspace existed let alone Dd.  I hadn't ever read a Love Our Lurkers post before writing my own.  That is how new I was! I barely knew how to insert pictures into posts.  In fact the fact that I had started to blog blows my mind still to this day.  Sorry I am getting ahead of myself or off topic.

Back to my lurking days....

 I laughed along with others, but no one heard me.  I cried with them, but no one saw.  I had thoughts that no one knew.  Why?  Because I thought I didn't fit in.  I knew them, but they didn't know me.  Why would they want to hear what I had to say? 

One day, I was so moved by Stormy's post, I had to say something.  You know what?  I had a warm welcome from her.  Not a dismissive comment in the least.  A little later Lillie, ( who sadly no longer blogs) had a funny story that I could relate to, and so I commented again.  Again another warm welcome.




The list goes on and on after that.  After delurking I began to believe that maybe having a relationship with my husband like those here do might actually be possible.  I began to reach out to a few, 'behind' the scenes.  I have to tell you I have managed to develop some spectacular friendships all because I took a breath and pressed comment. 

Think of Love our Lurkers Day as an open invitation to a party.  I personally HATE pressure and arbitrary timelines, so if today is not your day, that is okay.  Maybe tomorrow or next week.  Maybe in an email?  I can tell you I have never EVER regretted becoming part of this community.


Not a Dder/ttwder?  That doesn't matter.  We have plenty of those people in this community too.  A different perspective and point of view is always most welcome and often challenges in ways we need.

I was once like you.  Standing outside, looking in.  Perhaps walking by the same place over and over again, like taking an evening stroll over the holidays and seeing through the window a warm party taking place.

 
 
A passer by invites you in, but you are unsure.  They all seem to know each other so well.  Will my presence interrupt the party?  Will I stand out? What will they think of me?  Am I dressed appropriately? 
 
 
I am from a fairly large family.  When my older brother and sister were in high school there were borders at the schools they attended.  Often those kids couldn't go home for the holidays.  There was always room for one more at our house.  " Another potato in the pot" is what my Mom always says.  This community is no different.
 
( or ya know another beer in the fondue pot)

 


So come on in!  We don't expect you to be like them....(although you can be if you want to)



(cough...Betsy...cough)
 
 
 
But we'd hope maybe you wouldn't feel like you have to be this either....
 
 
 
 
 
This day has been dedicated to you because we WANT you to come in....
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
The people at the party really are that nice.  I am not saying you have to  invest everything you have here in saying hello.  I will tell you that I have made some to the best friendship I have ever had in my life since I delurked.  It wasn't actually something I thought about the day I hit comment.  But is is something that happened.  I know, how is that possible Willie?  In the span of a lifetime a year is but a blip.  The best friendships of your life?  How lonely were you?  That is just it, I wasn't lonely.  I'm not lonely.  When you share as much as we do here even anonymously, you are able to cultivate friendships that you didn't think were possible.  I mean once someone knows you have given your husband the right to spank you for discipline, well talking about your son failing a class is easy!  LOL
 



 


 So take the first step, hit the comment button.  Because.....




( just a little note our friend Clara has finally after months and months of pressure decided to start a blog of her own.  Please stop by and say hello.  We as bloggers know how terrifying a first post can be.  Lurkers here's your chance to start at square one with someone and never to have lurked on their blog! Clara's Wish)
 

112 comments:

  1. Happy LOL Day, Wilma! I'm glad to see how far you've come in the past year. Sounds like the self-discovery and relationship growth have been good for you. Best wishes in the days to come.

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    1. Well hello again Ana! Thank you so much. And happy LOL Day to you too!

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  2. Happy LOL Day Willie! Very cute post...I am sure that this should make lurkers feel welcome enough to at least say 'hey'. BTW...Your mom's "Another potato in the pot" is the same thing my grandpa used to say...thanks for that sweet memory. :)

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. And to you Cat! Happy to provide a nice memory for you. We use that saying a lot around here when we have impromptu dinner guests.

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  3. Happy LOL Day! First time commenting on your site. Thanks for such a warm and welcoming LOL post. :-)

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    1. Michael hello!!! I think I posted under you on Bonnie's site last night. Thanks you so much for delurking. Wait? Is that a paddle in your hand in your profile picture? eeeeeeeek. I am sure it is for killing spiders right?

      Enjoy your day !
      willie

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  4. Great post Willie, fancy heading. Who would have thought we would all be here when last year we were, well, nowhere. This fab post will entice a few of those lovely lurkers out I am sure. I hope you have a great LOL day, I too miss Lillie :(
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Now Jan we weren't NOWHERE...LOL. I really do miss reading Lillie's blog.
      love
      willie

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  5. It's been awhile my friend.... but I know I have commented here a lot when you first began last year :)

    Happy LOL Day Willie!
    # MrBBSpanker

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    1. That you did Bob. Hope things are well with you.
      Happy LOL Day to you.

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  6. Hi Wilma !

    What a nice bogpost !!

    Happy LOL Day to you, my friend !

    Hugs,
    Mona Lisa.

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    1. Thanks Mona!
      I would suppose you are tucked away in bed now, but I hope you enjoyed your first LOL Day!
      Hugs
      willie

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  7. As absent as I've been lately, it sometimes feels like I'm a lurker all over again. You were one of the first friends I made here in blogland, and I'm so glad I did. Your adventure has been one that inspires me. I admire your spirit, and you have a lovely way of putting your thoughts into words. You have an ability to beautifully express things that are difficult for most folks to even stammer out. I just wanted to use this LOL day to say thank you for being my friend.

    Love ya,
    TL

    PS Bucko says hi

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    1. Awww TL what a sweet comment. I consider myself very fortunate to call you a friend and I am happy you stepped out from your lurker status last year and began to blog. A tad disappointed there was no sloth ____ mention in your comment. I mean what better way to bond than over a visual trauma?
      Hello to you Buckster!
      love ya too or two? LOL
      willie

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  8. Happy LoL Day Willie! Brilliant post and awesome pics! I am so very glad you de-lurked and started your own blog. Blogland would not be the same without you and I am truly honoured to count you as a friend :)

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hello there Roz. Here is the trouble with North America, the word BRILLIANT is significantly underutilized !!! LOL. It is I that am honoured to count you as a friend.
      As always thank you for your sweet words
      love
      willie

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  9. Loved this. I'm so glad we both stopped lurking because I'm blessed to know you. :)

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    1. Well I know you say " Oh Lord" a lot ( or something like that) when we talk, but BLESSED to know me? LOL. It sounds kinda funny though, ' we both stopped lurking" like we were hiding in the shadows ready to pounce. Okay maybe if there was a cookie involved!
      Friends like you are the BEST argument to delurk!

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  10. happy lol day Willie! so happy to have met you

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    1. I am happy to have met you too Coral! Our blogland muah-er! LOL

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  11. Hey, lady! Loved the post!!

    JGirl

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  12. Hi Wilma and Barney,

    Happy LOL 8 day! I'm a regular visitor to your blog, and always enjoy your posts. Great pictures today!

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Thanks Hermione! A year ago I would have had NO clue how to do half of this stuff!

      hugs
      willie

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  13. You have the best, best, best posts! How could we all not comment. Thanks for being my friend!

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    1. Zoe I have so enjoyed getting to know you! As usual you are too generous with your compliments...but I'll take it!

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  14. I lurk here on your blog. One of many DD blogs that I lurk about. Your comments I find so insightful, like you're very in tune with those about you.
    Love the Winnie the Pooh!
    DF

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    1. WELCOME DelFonte!!! I have been guilty of lurking on your blog as well. Not entirely sure why. Thank you for you kind words. I hope your lurking days are over here.

      And who doesn't LOVE Pooh Bear? Well I'm sure some people don't ...they can stay lurkers! Kidding of course
      willie

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    1. Welcome DJ

      Thanks for stopping by. I will pop by your blog! Thanks for the link

      Willie

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  16. This is a thoughtful post Willie. I think it's a good encouragement for anyone who wants to comment or blog themselves but just can't quite make themselves do it. Thanks for a all your posts and participation in this community; believe it or not I think you're one of the pillars in it!

    Happy LOL Day and be sure to stop by my wife and I's posts, we have a competition!

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    1. Thanks for the compliment on the post foothills! I hope you are enjoying your first LOL day. I didn't comment because of your competition. I did comment on Tori's though. Guess you know who I was routing for!

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    2. Yea yea, I’ll try to find some place deep down in my heart to forgive you somehow :) Actually, you were one of the few people who only commented on one. Good job on not being afraid to commit! lol

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    3. LOL! See I could very well be the deciding vote!

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  17. What a totally fun post, Willie! Happy LOL Day!

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  18. Happy LOL Day! Thank you for reaching out to me, and always offering your advice and support!

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    1. Hi Jennelle! I enjoy stopping by your blog. You are such a pleasure. Your comments are always so kind and encouraging. Thank you!

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  19. Hi Wilma,

    I think this may be my first comment. Just wanted to say how much I love reading your posts and have for a long time. Thanks for writing!

    aurora

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    1. Hi Aurora. I have figured out, since last being at your blog why your posts weren't showing up in my feed. I shall begin reading your adventure again! I too look forward to it.

      You have no idea what your kind words do for me. Thank you.
      willie!

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  20. I love this community and am grateful that you are part of it with us! Happy LOL Day, Willie! :D

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    1. Thanks Christina! I do enjoy reading about all your escapades. Hope you enjoyed your LOL Day. You've been quite busy! You must have worn your boots out. Time for a new pair!

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    1. Hi Sunny!

      Thanks. Hope you had a wonderful LOL day!

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  22. Happy LOL Day Barney and Wilma! Love the images/post you put together! Thanks for being a part of this community.

    Clint and Chelsea
    Learning Domestic Discipline

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  23. Hi Wilma,

    Happy LOL Day! Loved your pictures, very cute... Thanks so much for all your support, your blog helped me stop lurking and join the community. I had sooooooo much fun writing my very first LOL post this morning, but I felt just like you.. Should I really be writing this so early in... But I went for it. :0)

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    1. Funny you know a year later I think...OF COURSE you should be writing an LOL post even if you are a few posts in! You will feel the same way next year. New, Old. Wordy, Short. it is a variety of bloggers that make this community wonderful . Each and every one of us plays our important parts Irish! So happy you delurked. You are a fantastic writer and a fun part of our community.

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  24. Hi Willie
    I hope you don't mind the familiarity - you don't know me but I have been lurking on your blog for nearly a year now, almost as long as you have been writing it, but not quite as long as my husband has been spanking me. Yes, I am one of those who came to Blogland through googling a phrase that included the word 'spank.' We are not a Dd couple, I am just a woman who likes to be spanked, whose husband finally agreed to redden her bottom after four decades - better late than never.
    You have had so many ups and downs along the way but still manage to write about it in such a humorous way. Blogland is lucky to have you in it. Happy LOL Day!
    Rosie x
    From the English side of the Pond

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    1. Not at all Rosie! We are all friends here. I am so pleased you delurked. It honestly doesn't matter to me or others whether you are Dd, ttwd, or just interested. Open minded comments are always welcome. How amazing it must have been to let yourself be 'you' with your husband after so long. Like the final piece of the puzzle was finally in place?
      Barney and I have always found humour in even the most difficult of situations. A gift given to us by both of our families. I am thankful that transcends into my writing.
      I hope you will be back Rosie! I feel something for those of us who use the "U's in words like humourous! LOL
      willie from the chilly side of the pond!

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  25. Willie, I'm not a lurker on your blog anymore but still on many others. Your words ring so true. Sitting on the outside looking in and wanting to be part of the party! I am sooo looking forward to getting out there, finally. Thank you for all of your support, Clara

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    1. No my friend you are not a lurker on my blog...but you kinda were for a bit in the summer. I can't tell you how absolutely over the moon I am that you are in a good place. A place where now you are willing to share. This is going to be great for you Clara.
      willie

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  26. Great post, Willie! :) Happy LOL Day to you! Looks like a lot of great things happening in Bedrock these day! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thanks Katie. Hope you enjoyed your first LOL day!

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  27. That was wonderful, Willie! I cannot imagine blogland without you. Happy LoL Day!

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    1. Aww Chickie thanks for the compliments. We all make up this wonderful place. None of us are irreplaceable. That includes YOU!

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  28. Hi! Okay, I admit, im a bit of a lurker here! I read your blog, but I dont think ive stopped to comment yet. SO heres the first, with more to come. :) Happy LOL DAY!

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    1. Nope you haven't commented, but I am just as guilty on your blog. So we shall call it even and both agree to do better? Hope you enjoyed your LOL day!

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  29. Not a lurker, but happy LOL day!!

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  30. Hi there! I have read your blog for a long time and this year I decided to get brave and leave a comment! Thanks for writing!!

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    1. Well then Welcome SH. Welcome and thank you for both reading and equally important for pressing publish. I know it can be nerve racking . I hope you won't shy away any longer!
      willie!

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  31. Like the sunflower pic. Happy LOL Day.

    Prefectdt

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    1. LOL! Duly noted. Happy LOL Day to you too!

      willie

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  32. Hi Willieeeeee! You were the first blog I commented on and have always been encouraging and fun. I have come to consider you a dear friend. Great post....who could not feel welcome after such an invitation!

    love,
    George

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    1. Well it is a darn good thing you consider me a dear friend, because that is how I feel about you too George. I still remember the first comment you left on my blog....and then how I draggggggggggged you out! LOL
      much love
      willie

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  33. Happy LoL Day Willie!
    This is definitely the WARMEST community I've ever had the pleasure of being a part of. Thank you for making me feel welcome too, all those months ago!
    hugs,
    Cali

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    1. It is a wonderful place to reside. Hope you enjoyed your first LOL Day Cali!
      hugs
      willie

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  34. A great post Willie and so true.
    You are a good friend to many and extend a firm hand of welcome, you help this community so much.
    Happy LOLday
    Janey

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    1. Thank you for your kind words Janey. I'm not entirely sure how accurate they are * wink * but I appreciate them nevertheless .

      Hope you had a wonderful day!
      willie

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  35. I am still laughing so hard that I can barely type.... Happy LOL Day my friend

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    1. Say what???? I write a heartfelt post and you LAUGH? ......typical. typical!
      Happy LOL day to you too my friend!

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  36. I'm not sure if I've ever commented here or not. I know I've connected with you elsewhere. I went ahead & subscribed too! Happy LOL day! I love all of your pics!

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    1. I do believe Corinne this is the first time you have commented. I we get to know each other better in the future.
      Thanks!
      willie

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  37. Love the post, Willie! Love to see where you two are at, too. Happy LOL Day!

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    1. Well hello STRANGEr ! Thanks for the kind words. Hope you enjoyed your LOL Day

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  38. A very entertaining post! Happy LOL Day!

    Holla

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    1. Welcome Holla!
      Thanks for stopping by. I'm glad you found the post entertaining. Hope you pop in again some time.
      willie

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  39. Hi Wilma-

    After such a welcoming LOL day post, I just have to delurk. Thank you for sharing your writing- I always enjoy reading your blog.

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    1. Well hello Kia! Thank you for delurking. I know it isn't an easy thing to do. I am certain you have received many welcoming comments on all the blogs you have delurked on, because what I said up above is true. Thank you for reading and well is it weird to say, enjoying? LOL

      willie

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  40. What a great post and I loved all of the pics, you always have great pics! Well, I'm not a lurker but thought I would one by and say hi and happy LOL day!
    Hugs
    Km

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    1. Hey Kim! I always love hearing from you~ and not JUST because you are so complementary *wink*.
      Hope you had a great LOL Day!
      hugs
      willie

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  41. Happy LOL Day Willie! Thank you for what you bring to Blogland :)

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    1. Kay!!!! Welcome 'back' to my little blog. I hope this means maybe, possibly you will be posting again ?????

      Thanks for you sweet words
      willie

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  42. Happy LOL Day, Wilma!
    This is my first time here, and I already feel the "home" presence. :)

    I can totally relate to how you felt at the beginning of your journey. I felt the same way. not fitting in, wanting to belong, unsure, vulnerable...

    But you are right. This is such a wonderful community.
    I am so happy to be a part of it.

    Happy LOL Day! I love your blog!
    :)

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    1. Well let me say welcome to my 'place' Katherine. The feeling of insecurity quickly vanished once I delurked. Obviously..LOL. Now I'm sure some would wish me to shut up! lol

      This is such a wonderfully warm community. I can't state enough how much my life has changed for the better because I am a part of it.

      Seeing how LOL Day is over, I will say, Have a wonderful day!
      willie

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  43. Hey Wilma, happy LOL Day! :) Sorry I have not been commenting the last couple of weeks, I couldn't really comment on anyone's blog I was so busy, but have made it a priority to start again. :) Thank you for being so honest and open on your blog, and always welcoming everyone in blogland so warmly.

    {{{HUGS}}} EsMay

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    1. Hey EsMay, no need to apologize, that darned life always seems to get in the way of fun doesn't it? ( shakes fist in the air). Don't try to add blogger to your lists when life becomes that way, and certainly don't feel guilty about it!

      Hope life easies up for you soon.
      hugs back
      willie

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  44. What a welcoming post Willie! I'm so glad you went from lurker to blogger. I hope to be visiting you for many LOL days to come. Hugs and love :)

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    1. Whoa! Slooooooooooooooooow down Queenie. MANY LOL days to come? Man. LOL! I have really enjoyed getting to know you since you delurked.

      Hugs and Love back
      willie

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  45. Love the line about your son failing a class. The comments are sweet too.

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    1. Hi Leah! Welcome. It is so true though, I mean about talking about anything with the people here. There is not really a feeling of judgement after 'baring' it all!

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  46. Whew...I feel like I am running against the clock here....Happy LOL day.....my hospital porn writing partner!! I will always remember that...really made me smile during an awful time!

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    1. Well now, if THAT isn't going to be an interesting comment for lurkers to read and wonder about! It was a fun day amidst all the scariness of it all! As for you running against the clock.....what else is new ?

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  47. Another amazing post!!!! Super glad to have found you!!

    Happy LOL day!!!

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    1. Super Glad? Golly gee whiz Sarah! LOL.....
      Hope you had a fun day yesterday!

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  48. Hiya Willikins! Happy belated LOL day. Can't quite tell you how sincerely happy I am that we found each other. :)

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    1. Well Sassy Skirts, better late than never! I know how happy you are that we found each other because I am just as happy! How's that for a cheeseball?

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  49. I'm late of course. I'm so glad you made the decision to delurk Willie. You've been an amazing friend. Happy LOL Day!

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    1. Fashionably late DARLING! I am honoured Dana. Also happy you haven't been bed ridden in a while *wink* Here's hoping this Thanksgiving finds you AT the table!!
      Hope your LOL Day was FAB!

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  50. I'm a late de-lurker, Willie. Can I still come to the party? I just started a blog (today) and would love it if you'd stop by when you get a chance.

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    1. Ah, I do think I said any time right? LOL...Thank you for coming to the party!! And of COURSE I will visit your blog!! Hopefully many times ;)

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    1. WHERE THE FLIP HAVE YOU BEEN??? Lol...okay, I actually DO know...but c'mon!! You missed your own blogging anniversary for Pete's sake!

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  52. Did that last post ...post? Finally made back into blogland for a brief visit to be a late lurker. Going to lose the internet due to moving in a few days for around three weeks. Will come back and lurk some more soon :) Hugs Willie! Sorry I missed you.

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    1. Hey lady...I hope your move goes well. I shall miss you when you are 'gone' :(. Thanks for letting me know though. Fingers crossed you don't have anymore 'snags' with the move.

      Hugs to you my friend!

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