Wednesday, February 12, 2014

It Takes a Community to Raise a Dd Woman( By Lillie)

They say that it takes a village to raise a child, I agree -  and further I submit that it takes a community to raise a spanko - or a submissive wife.  It takes connection with like minded women  to inspire domestic discipline relationships. 

For those that don't know me, my name is Lillie - and I am in the 2nd year of dd with Ian, my husband of nearly 30 years.

arguably good kitty representation of my husband,
please add a moustache  (he spanks with zealous abandon)


 I am not in blogland very often anymore, I miss it - but life lately conspires to keep me occupied elsewhere.  My little troublemaker sister in dd, Willie s kind enough to allow me to post here when the urge to pontificate strikes me, and I love her for it.


Willie
This past week, Willie and I have been staying with our middle sister, Susikins.
Sort of a Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants sequel.....except with long discussion about spanky husbands, battery operated sex toys, nipple clamps and the like....all sans HoHs.  Susie's MM was out of town for the week.....and we went to town (so to speak) in his absence.

MM and his little Susie - I swear they are that cute....

Collectively, the three of us have approximately 6 years of time invested in making domestic discipline relationships work. Added together, we have probably experienced 171,000 spankings... one would think that would make us something of experts.

But we are not.....we struggle mightily.
We achieve moments of perfection as submissive wives, followed by days of angst.
We cry.
We merrily disobey our husbands.
We fall flat on our non-submissive faces.  Sometimes, as much as our husbands care, they cannot give us what we need to pick ourselves back up and try again.
We need each other.  We need encouragement from someone who knows what it is like to walk the green mile and have a one on one session with old sparky (or whatever said husband has nicknamed his favourite paddle.)

That's why I was so sad to hear that there are women in the dd blogland community who worry that they may not  fit the "cookie cutter" mold of a domestically disciplined wife and worse, consider stepping away from this community, because they struggle to live up to the ideal of a submissive woman.

Fear not, girls.
Reach out and grab hold of a dd sister.  Lean on her, and let her lean back.

You cannot put the desire to live this life on a shelf.  If you are like me, you probably spent enough of your life in denial about who you really are.  Instead, embrace your desire to be owned by your man and never let go of your saucy inner brat that keeps things interesting...... afterall, that he why he married/lives with/dates you.

And when you need the special kind of affirmation that can only come in fellowship.......

My support network.....Susie, Willie and Me


......don't be afraid to reach out to someone who knows exactly what you are going through.





 

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  1. Great post! If it wasn't for the connections I have found here, I would have rolled up the carpet and called it quits. For all my new found friends... thank you from the bottom of my heart for your frankness, your honesty, your sense of humor and for lifting me up and helping to place things back in perspective. All of you are special in your own way. I don't always get to respond to posts because of time constraints but I assure you I read them all and pull them out again when needed.

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    2. Hi Catherine,
      Nice to meet you.
      Stepping away from blogland has been so difficult because I have missed the opportunity to commiserate with other women striving to live this life. I am especially fortunate because I have friends I can call up and whine to for long periods of time, but those relationships are invaluable.
      Take care.
      Love and hugs
      Lillie

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  2. Extremely well said...thanks for saying it! :-)

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    1. Thanks Measha,
      Nice to meet you - love and hugs Lillie

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  3. I'm so jealous you're on a girls' trip! When my high school friends and I have our annual trip, someone always brings a stack of Cosmo magazines and we crack ourselves up over the sex articles.

    It really does take a village; however, someone who is about to step out is likely too vulnerable to reach out to others. Everyone needs to be keeping an eye out for others and making overtures. You never know whose day you might make.

    Does Willie really look like that cat?

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    1. She is most definitely that cute!

      Wait, I think she often smacks me for calling her cute. Oh well...

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    2. She's that cute and y'all are corrupting her talking about battery-operated sex toys? You two really should be better role models =).

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    3. Thank you Leah! Psst, let me let you in on a little secret....Susie is the naughtiest one of the bunch! Oh I know, you all think I am kidding. It is always the 'quiet' ones!

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    4. Splutter! Corrupting HER?
      Leah, my dear, Willie may be a cute little thing, but don't let that innocent facade fool you for a moment ..... she can be devious and rotten to her cute wee core.
      Example: She wanted to write "Hi Ian" on my bum as a cheeky little tip of the hat to my spanky husband!
      It kept Susie and I busy all week keeping her little behind out of mischief. :)
      Don't get me started on Susie's naughtiness......suffice to say our dear MM has his work cut out for him ;)

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    5. *ACTUALLY* I wanted to write : " Dear Ian if you are seeing this message, blame Susie."

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    1. yes, Willie - brown eyes are one more thing you and the Tasmanian Devil have in common....

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  5. It's late, and snowing, and I find myself in blogland just as a miracle occurs!

    It's great to hear from you, Lillie! Willie, by hook or by crook ... or traveling pants ... thanks for getting her here.
    Btw, it's wonderful to see how well you and Barney are doing.
    Susie, hang in there! You CAN do this!

    171,001 will belong to a new sister. She's in good hands with you girls!!
    Rogue

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    1. By hook...but Lillie was the one who gave me the hook, and highjacked my blog! Older sisters are sooooooooo bossy!

      I can't tell you how wonderful it was to see your name Rogue! Were your ears burning? Oh yes you did come up....Lillie still fantasizes about spanking Ian.
      Willie

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    2. Oh gosh sorry to interrupt but hi Rogue, how are you? miss you too
      love Jan.xx

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    3. Hi Sunshine! I can and I will. Those sassy sisters armed me with some new ideas as well. ;)

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    4. Um, Susie, you might want to think about getting a blog. Oh WAIT, you have one...off you go!

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    5. My dear Rogue,
      How I have missed you!
      Your blog inspired some of my most elaborate fantasies....good times :)
      Barney and Willie are doing great - in that he is spanking the fanny off her (Go Barney!) and our little Susikins is doing beautifully :)
      There is nothing like a week of unrestrained shrieking and generally shameless adolescent behaviour for your average housewife - I highly recommend it. :)
      So glad to see your name here, Sweets
      love and hugs
      lillie

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    6. WHAT???? Doing great ( he's spanking her fanny off)??...and SUSIE is doing beautifully? Pfft. I smell favouritism rearing its ugly head in the form of inaccuracy. This description is almost slander like!

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    7. Rogue! I've missed you girlie! I hope all is well with you, glad you are still reading and lurking and occasionally commenting. I am sending happy thoughts your way. Sorry, for hijacking your blog, Willie, but I want to encourage Rogue to pop her head up more often. :-)

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  6. Hi Lillie, it is great to read one of your posts again. I hope the three of you had a great time together. Lovely post
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Hi Jan :)
      We had a riot - and we did try to have our moments of dignified womanhood, well two of them that I can remember :)
      love and hugs
      lillie

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  7. I know what mischief girlfriends together (without their partners) can make!
    I will not pass on any suggestions since I am positive you can do that all by yourselves.
    On a serious note, It is extremely beneficial to forge relationships that allow you the freedom to be yourself in this world. We all doubt ourselves and need friends to validate what we do right and commiserate with us when we fall!

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    1. Hi Minelle
      Nice to see you :)
      There is a very special energy that is created when people bring their shared experienced together with a desire to improve their understanding - add wine and general silliness and there is a magic there.
      hugs and love to you
      lillie

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  8. Nice to see a post from you Lillie! :). You are missed around here.

    Uh oh- sounds like triple trouble at Susie's without the fellas. Have a wonderful time!

    I agree- it's very nice to be able to talk about all this stuff with caring blog land friends. Unfortunately I think our vanilla friends would have quite the reaction if we were to talk about 1 spanking or 1000 spankings! Enjoy and thanks to Willie for hosting. Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie :)
      Thank you - and we did have a lovely time together.
      You're right this is a lifestyle that can only be discussed with people we really trust - and we know will understand.....makes those friends all the more important.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  9. Aww what a lovely surprise to have a post from you Lillie! We miss you here
    in blogland :) I was sad too to read the struggles some are having. I know I
    am glad I have so many sweet friends in this community to lean on when I
    need to. I hope/wish they would see they do too.

    Lucky girls having a getaway together! I am so jealous. Do have a wonderful
    time.

    love to all,
    sara

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    1. Hi Sara,
      Thanks so much - I miss blogland too.
      I understand those struggles some girls are going through - I just hope knowing that they seem to be par for the course help keep them reading and sharing.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  10. I just found my Spanked Sisterchick in blogland less than 3 weeks ago, and she's one of the biggest blessings to come about in a long time. -SSB

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    1. Hi SSB,
      LOL - spanked sisterchick - that is really cute and special they are indeed.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  11. It's so nice to put pictures to your faces! Though you're a bit fuzzier than I imagined :-)

    It sounds like a wonderful time together. I can't imagine any trouble being brewed there.

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    1. Hi Chickadee,
      We didn't bother shaving without the men around, lol
      Susie and I did manage to keep the trouble to a minimum, but it wasn't easy ;)
      hugs and love
      lillie

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    2. *ahem* SUSIE and YOU?????? I think we are missing a name here.

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  12. Aw, adorable pictures! How great that you guys have each other for real life support :-) This gives me an idea: how cool would it be if there was a site our blog one could visit specifically to find a"submissive sponsor"(kind of like a sober sponsor that people in alcoholics anonymous use) to be a friend and mentor when they are having a hard time? Maybe those struggling would find it easier to reach out if there were people saying "please come talk about your struggles and let's help one another!" all in one place.

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    1. Hi River Wild,
      I think that is an amazing idea!
      At the beginning of our dd relationship - which I initiated my husband into, I beset Mick with all kinds of questions and he kindly helped us through some of the tricky parts. I often wonder what would have become of our marriage, had it not been for his generous spirit.
      Knowing that there is a "big sister or brother" out there willing to lend an ear would be a wonderful asset to newbies.
      You my dear, are a born problem solver.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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    2. Aw Lillie, you are too sweet! Thank goodness for patient and giving HOHs!

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  13. Awe , this is such a sweet post, and I'm glad the three of you found each other. I know Blogland can be really intimidating at first, and you kinda feel (well I did) that there's some inner club or meeting place that you don't know about, and it can be a hard place to find friends. I'll be forever thankful to the people who did reach out, like Willie. I know the struggles are so much easier to deal when you have support! I hope you had a great trip

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    1. Hi Jennelle,
      Thank you.
      And YES, as much as I tease our little Willikins, I love her for the work she does in this community.
      I have had many experiences since beginning dd that have caused me to consider sending Ian's spanking implements through the tree shredder and stuffing my own complicated desire to be spanked back into the proverbial closet - bloggers have talked me off the proverbial ledge to the point where I have repeated their advice like mantras in my head ......sigh
      It is easier when you can share.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  14. Lillie! What a pleasant surprise. I miss your posts a lot. Thank you Willie for so generously sharing your blog! Yeah, I'm jealous too. Just thinking of how much fun you three must be having puts a big smile on my face though :)

    Lillie, what perfect timing for the subject of your post. There is at least one blogger who I hope is still around long enough to stop by and read this. I think it could help. It spoke to me directly too. I have been wrestling with a lot of things these past few days. I'm still not sure, but your post added weight to the pro side of things. Mainly because I know you're right about not being able to put the desire for it back on the shelf. The desire alone can't make it happen though.

    Anyway,so glad to see you around again. I hope it happens more often!

    Hugs, Queenie

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    1. Hi Queenie!
      How nice to see you :) and thanks so much.
      Willie is very generous for sharing her blog, but I just took over while she was causing trouble with Susie ;)
      I understand feeling unsure about dd....and my feelings about it still run the gamet from blissful euphoria to hissing hostility, but one thing I am completely sure of - this is a part of who I am at the centre of my being, I can no more ignore it than I could change my blood type.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  15. Great post, you are absolutely right. we do need support from each other. Glad that you all have each other.

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    1. Hi Blondie,
      How nice to see you!
      I love them more than I can say.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  16. Lillie, I loved this post, and what you had to say was so true. We need each other. As much as I love the Duke, and he's always there for me, and I couldn't do this without him, I still needed the wisdom and support from other DD wives behind me. We all practice differently, in fact I'm not sure I talk to any two women that practice it even closely the same. Some aren't spanked for punishment, some are only spanked for punishment, some have a lot of rules, some only have one, some are sassy and fully of energy, and some are more naturally submissive and laid back, some keep their houses so clean you could eat off the floor, and some are a week behind in dishes and laundry, and heck, a month behind in dusting (not me, *cough* whistling innocently). But we all do DD our own way, what works for us, and we can still support each other in that. These women helped me figure out this or that long before I was even brave enough to talk to them. I needed them to be here, I needed them so I could find them, and put a name to what I'd longed for all my life, I needed them so that when I worried, panicked, thought I was doing it all wrong, they could show me that everyone faced similar situations and I didn't stand out as a failure. Thank you, to everyone, that makes being here so incredibly wonderful.

    {{{hugs}}} EsMay

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    1. Hi Es May,
      Hugs Sweetie and how nice to see you :)
      Excellent point - dd looks completely different at everyone house, but there is such acceptance and support in this community, it makes the dark times more bearable.
      hugs and love
      lillie

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  17. Hi Lillie :)

    I am so glad that Wilma told me you were at her place....I would have hated missing you ;)

    I love this post....love reading something from you....and I couldn't agree more. Ryan can only take so much talk about this stuff before his eyes start to glaze over. You do need someone who "gets you"...and for lack of better words....is down in the trenches doing this mess with you...LOL! I have been lucky to find those women....and they are as much of my family as anyone else.

    I hope you find the time to come around more often...you are missed.

    Lots of love....

    Lucy

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    1. Hi Lucy
      How nice to see you, Sweetie :)
      lol - men don't have the staying power for the long dd discussions, do they?
      What I notice about my husband (in his current dd phase) is that discussions are often very one sided....meaning he does all the talking. I once thought that would be incredible to have him share so liberally, but sometimes I wish I could get a word in edgewise. He scolds, praises, pontificates, etc...but he does not know what it is like to submit - for that I need those ladies who have (to borrow your analogy) been on the front lines of ttwd.
      Thank you for your kind words and sense of humour.
      love and hugs
      lillie

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  18. Hi Lillie,

    This post is so true. I don't know where I would be without my DD sisters to talk me down off the ledge sometimes. Not to mention how boring my summers would be without Willie and sloths. :) It's great to have someone to keep us straight.

    You, Susie, and of course Willie have gotten Bucko and me through some rough times, and it means more to me than I can say to call you my friend.

    Love,
    TL

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    1. Hi TL :)
      lol - I can't count the number of ledges I have been coaxed down from......I think from time to time every dd woman has perched precariously upon at least one.
      I am proud to call you friend, my dear :)
      hugs and love
      lille

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  19. I ll be forever grateful for the friends I've met here. There is one (in particular) that I don't know what I'd do without her. I so wish that everyone could find at least one 'sister' they could reach out to. Great post!

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  20. Hi Sarah
    I feel the same, and will be hokey and quote Shirley McLaine, "If you want the fruit from the tree, you have to be willing to go out on a limb."
    love and hugs to you,
    lillie

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  21. Lillie! I have missed your blog, so I am glad that you are a visiting blogger on Willie's blog! Yippee! As everybody knows, I am looking for my guy and have been trying things on for size by reading other people's blogs. I stay away from anything that smacks of perfection mostly because I have lived enough to know that nothing is perfect except people's ability to be imperfect.

    I agree totally with you about not being able to ignore who you are after a while and what you want. I also agree that the supportive community is such an important thing. When you post something, it is always so heartening to get a message from someone who has been there.

    It is sometimes tempting to step away because if there was ever someone who doesn't belong in this community, it is me...but I am a part of the community just because I share common desires and hopes and dreams with you all. And like you all, they are pretty much desires and hopes and dreams that can be shared only in the cyber world, at least for now.

    So, let me take this opportunity to thank you all for letting me be part of this community and for sharing how perfectly imperfect your lives are at times and for letting me share my struggles in my perfectly imperfect world.

    Big hugs to the three sisters!

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    1. Oh Cygnet :) How nice it is to see you here!
      I sometimes wonder if I would want perfection if it was offered on a silver platter. Real life leaks and stains the carpet, but it send the senses tingling.
      You absolutely belong in a community of women who are looking for something in their lives, just because you haven't found the person to fit that role is just a matter of chronology. Understanding your desires, being able to name them (even on an anonymous) blog is eons ahead of where I lived most of my adult life.
      Thanks so much for your lovely comment
      hugs and love
      lillie

      PS as i type this I have a new cat, just recently neutered (he took it like such a little trooper) sitting on my lap and biting my fingers. His name is Les Meux (long story) and he is my type - long in the frame and lanky. Thought a fellow cat lover would appreciate hearing about the new man in my life.

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    2. Hugs and Love to you too, Lillie. Thanks for including me! Perfection is over-rated, I guess. Part of what makes us the people we are is the challenges we face and if everything came easy we would be at best unappreciative and at worst ungrateful.

      Congratulations on the new family member, but don't tell me something has happened to Greg! :-(

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    3. Yes, my poor old Greg died last year. He had a really good life. He was quite a stodgy old fuss pot, slightly obnoxious and full of himself, but I miss him all the time. He was 16.
      This new man in my life comes to us from peasant stock - he is a kitten from the barn. His mother brought him up (very uncharacteristically) and left him on the step. She is a old barn cat who has raised many litters of great ratters and this is the first time she has ever done such a thing. I sensed there must be a serious reason, so in he came. He was a hissing little fella in the beginning, but now has made himself completely at home in captivity. Les Meux is proving to be quite an athletic little fellow, changing sun beams and wagging tails, biting HoHie bare toes, batting our daughter's dangling ponytails, and climbing the sheers....good thing he is so handsome, or we'd have lost our temper with him. However, nobody was sad to see him head off to be de-masculinated.

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  22. Lillie! It's so wonderful to hear from you! Huge thanks to sister Willie for 'lending' you her blog :)

    I'm sorry I am late to this. Such a wonderful post and so true. I don't know where I would be without the friendships, connections and support network I have found here and I am so thankful. This lifestyle isn't easy and none of us are prefect. We all fall flat at times and need advice, support or a kick in the pants at times (um, not THAT kind!) from a friend.

    What a trio you three make. I can definitely see a lot of mischief and naughtiness there! None of you fool me :)

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz :)
      Willie is very generous to let me blog here but I could have beaten her up if necessary - she is just a shrimp.
      I have missed everyone terribly - worse, I haven't even had the time to read or comment very much. Dd can be very isolating - there is no one outside the community that could hope to understand and sometimes my husband is who I need to talk about (with loving respect - snort) so he will not always do.
      And yes, panama parties are fun - even when you are as old as I am. I highly recommend taking the plunge.
      Be well Sweetheart -
      love and hugs
      lillie

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  24. Hi Lillie, you don't know me, but I used to read your posts before you went private. I loved them! Terrific post....very true. So glad you gals had a great time :)

    Hugs,
    Sadie

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    1. Hi Sadie and Thank you very much :)

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  25. Oh it has occurred to me that I actually haven't commented on this post, just poked around on it. First off, Barney was whining about how he wasn't represented in the pictures....I informed him he was the 'cooked goose' my kitten was staring at. That shut him up pretty quickly! *wink*

    Now *ahem* let me point out some inaccuracies before I get all gushy serious<- what? you had to know BOTH were going to happen.

    Prepare for disjointed, point-form, dissection.....

    That cat does bare a resemblance to Ian, but a schnauzer has similar facial hair...just sayin'. I may be somewhat of a troublemaker, but you can certainly find that on your own. Disagree? Where's Susie? I have two words here to rest my case.....CRAIG'S LIST...'nuff said. Of the 171,000 spankings- pretty sure I have maybe 100 of them, tops- being the ANGEL that I am and all. Never mind calling Barney Mr. Magoo, or a saint or any of that other 'garbage' you two like to throw out. Besty, Maryanne and (well I'd like to say Lucy- but there is no point) zip it! and GASP...."merrily disobey our husbands??? did you seriously put that in print???? Good GOD woman! I knew that 4th glass of wine prior to this post was a bad idea. I just didn't know HOW bad!

    Now onto the serious, gushy crap....

    I like many have been so very fortunate to me some fantastic women who I am blessed to call friends even outside of this realm we call blog land. We share so much more than just Dd trials and tribulations . We share our lives. Dd may have brought us together initially, but understanding of each other has kept the friendship alive and allowed it to flourish. Not that I categorize these relationships, but just as my friendships with NON ttwders, I turn to different women during different times. Example I have my BSDM type 'girlies' who I also share recipes with, but if I am confused, or wanting to learn more...off to her I go first...or to another for teenage drama...or to the BDSM girl for that too...NOT that I want to learn how to tie up our teen, although the thought does have merit, I'm not going to lie. My point? The lines cross and blur, but the feeling remains the same, acceptance.

    Once you have shared that you want your husband to spank you, as I have said countless times before, opening up to like minded women who are willing to share back, becomes quite easy. Anyway the point I really should make here, based on your post's vibe.....Of the countless women I have been fortunate to meet through blogging, I honestly can not think of ONE...not *ONE* who is not sassy! Who is not strong. Who is not a riot to know! Who is a wallflower. Who is brainless. Who follows blindly. Who doesn't STRUGGLE to follow, every single day. I kind of chuckle when I read statements that women often make, of " not being the cookie cutter Dd wife" . IS there such a thing? Actually I suppose there is....feisty and non-compliant naturally! LOL.

    Sheesh I should feel bad about leaving such a wordy comment...but then I remembered it is MY BLOODY BLOG! LOL.

    You know my bossy-caring-friend. My home is your home no matter where that is- literally or in print. Anytime you want, you can 'highjack' this blog. Although considering you have an ID and password for it, it is more of a passive highjack. AND...passive is not a word I would typically use to describe you. LOL

    My love Always....and all that sentimental jazz
    willie.

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    1. My dear Willie,
      I have to agree, my hubby does proudly wear a prominent cookie duster, reminiscent of a Schnauzer, and when I read this to him, has me point out that your Barney sports a similaly festooned upper lip. ;)
      Sorry to have left Barney out of the pictures, and now that you mention it - perhaps that little kitty is your hubby and it is indeed, your little goose that has been roasted?
      I stand by my former suggestion to solicit Craig's List for emergency transportation to a major urban centre - it was pragmatic problem solving....and as long as my husband never finds out about it, I am fine. ;)
      Your lack of appreciation for my snap judgement aside ;) ......what you describe is quite true of the reciprocal relationships women have with each other. Perhaps men do the same, but over my life I have learned to grow from the wisdom and experience of other women. When you think about it, it is primal, it is how we learned not to feed our families the white berries, etc...by the sharing of experience. That it is offered up with such generosity is always a reaffirming of the desire we have to want to see others happy and successful.
      And yes,
      as Susie's hubby Mr. Mischief Manager recently put it, "these women are not wallflowers..."
      when describing some of the tih wives he knows - I have never engaged with a woman in blogland that was afraid of her shadow. Making the decision to use this lifestyle to enrich your marriage is a bold approach, and as we have often suggested, "not for sissies."
      I love sharing OUR BLOG with you, Willie and thanks for the opportunity - now, I will be changing a few things around here, starting with the curtains........kidding, Timbit.
      many hugs and much love
      lillie


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    2. My Barney has a full beard, this is true, but he doesn't have the magnificent *cough* 70s Porn 'stash *cough* that Ian has.

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    3. Porn stash?!?
      Well......I am not going to complain about it *wink
      and those magnificent beards are nothing to complain about either, OR SO I hear.

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  26. grrr.... to *meet some fantastic women...not ME..

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  27. Well, hi there my sweet and spicy sfam! I miss you very much. It is so good to see your voice and heart your heart here on Willie's blog... but it's making me cry happy/sad tears - you know the kind. :-)

    Wonderful post from you, as always. I suppose some of us, the more glaringly misfit around here @..@, should write posts describing why we know belong here even when it appears we don't. Meh - that would mean writing a post. Meh. Lol! I belong because I say I belong, whether anybody else understands why. So there. ;-)

    Hugs to you and Ian. (I never imagined him as a kitty with a mustache! Gotta get that image out of my head. Lol!)

    Hugs, blessings and chocolate hearts...

    Irishey

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    1. Oh Irishey, :D
      My sfam indeed! I have missed you very much...
      I know the happiness through tears emotion intimately....isn't it great?
      I LOVE you logic and it is spot on, of course. Ultimately, I hope anyone who is waffling is reassured that this community has room for tremendous variety. As far as doormats, I haven't met one....wise and chocked full of sauciness - yes, but that is what makes it fun.
      These husbands are all just pussycats, aren't they?
      hugs and love
      lillie

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    2. Doormats? (Spewing coffee emoticon) Ha! Surely you never suspected I was a doormat? I wonder why doormats and submissives are considered to be anything of the same ilk? Choice and preference make a vast distinction between the two.

      I'm not submissive, either, as much as I appreciate a man with the confidence to show his dominant nature. But I GET it and I AM it in a way, from a different perspective. I know where and how I fit the mold, it's just that the material I pour in there is a different mix, flavor and consistency.

      Pussycats? Umm, well, yeeaa-aahhh. ;-) Very big ones, who can be quite tiger-like. Dang, I love those low-throated, rumbling purrs. Lol!

      I've glanced through a few of the other comments. 70's porn 'stache? Lol! I noticed you called it a cookie duster, and had to grin. I know very few people who call it that nowadays.

      Hugs and love back atcha. ♡

      Willie, thanks for letting all of us chit chat here. Hugs, love and all that mushy gushy stuff to you, too. ♡♧

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  28. Hello One and All!

    Willie informed me last night that Lillie had written a guest blog post and the sun (if it was shining, which it isn't, it is raining yet again) is well past the yard arm and I have only just managed to get the internet working today. I didn't want anyone thinking I was being snotty and ignoring them! Hmmm!

    So it's great to hear from you, and I already know you had a brilliant time. Nipple clamps?!!!! Ever heard of a husband's mouth?!! (Just asking. LOL!)

    I think the real difficulty is that we not only do This Thing in our own ways, but we all have different wants needs and aspirations as to the way it is achieved, and I know that sometimes it confuses the hell out of me, mainly because I (Dan and I) have altered so much since I first hid in his armpit and snuffled out the words "I want you to spank me."

    We all have our individual ledges, humps and bends in the road, and we can never be sure what is going to appear around the corner. But what would we do without each other, and by that I mean all the people in this community. It seems to me that it doesn't matter what you need to know or find out, there are at least a half dozen of folk who are willing to put your mind at rest and give you their viewpoints.

    I think it's very true that there is no going back. But for some of us, the road has a tendency to twist in ways we could never have dreamed about. There are times when we think we belong to a clandestine society! LOL!

    Glad you got Lillie to put in an appearance, Willie. It's been lovely to hear from you, L. You have to keep an eye on Willie; she's the most exhausting, energetic, flighty, naughty, little scrap of a sunbeam around here. She would be sorely missed so we keep her chained to her blogsite!

    Many hugs to you all!

    Ami

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    1. Well....... I guess I will have to share her with blogland, our little Willie and she is a force, isn't she?
      Ami - there is nothing that we didn't discuss, given that we had a few days to cover everything. I ordered (with my husband's permission) a set of nipple clamps and God help me if someone at the village post office gets nosy (because I ordered some things that would make Bill Clinton blush.)
      Before the dd community, I would never have discussed "kinky" things with my hubby. I wasn't the sexiest hen in barnyard, if you know what I mean. I just never thought about those kinds of things, but now it is like a whole new, slight indecent world, has been opened up to me and I love it.
      Despite how we might consider putting dd on mothballs from time to time, a wise person told me in the beginning (very very early on) that it would never be the same, there was no going back and that has certainly been our experience.
      After that first spanking it was like the poles shifted.....love it or hate it, it is who we are.

      Glad to hear you sounding so happy, my friend.
      love and hugs
      lillie

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    2. FLIGHTY???? and EXHAUSTING? What the flip? And some support network YOU are Lillie....sheesh.

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