Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Camping Sex, Ghosts and Cakes Just To Answer a Few

Looking out my window you certainly cannot tell it is the last week of March. Meh it will be what it will be. Life here is clicking along. I have to say it is unusual due to restraints and perhaps a case of Wounded Wife Syndrome. I'm not in a panic by any means, just floating around rather aimlessly. But ....

( My Dad loved Doris Day. So by proxy so do I. I actually also really LOVE the dress she is wearing in this video. Oh and for all of you out there that have older parents- you are most welcome for the ear worm today !)


What have you and Barney NOT done since you were dating oh those many years ago that you'd LOVE to do again? (and it's MM asking...) are trying to cause controversy...or shed me in a bad light, I can sense it. ( insert vision of him pontificating/explaining that we won't be shed in a bad light if it isn't something naughty)

Camping ....ALONE.

What parts of Barney do you like best? What parts of yourself do you like best?
I have always loved Barney's blue eyes.  None of our children have blue eyes however.  Our oldest has an unusual army green colour though!  What part of me do I like best- Barney.

Here are some questions: if you had to choose to either grow a foot our shrink a foot(in inches, not the left or right!) Which would you choose and why? Do you believe in ghosts, aliens, magic? Do you have a favorite essential oil? 
Well the first question is easy...UP up and Away!

I wish!

I am 5 foot 2, which I realize around here isn't that short, but ALL of my height is in my legs...bwahaa..I am short- waisted.  Finding clothes can be challenging because of that.  Unless of course you want your jeans to double as a bra!  So not only would I want to grow up I want that inch between my hip bone and rib cage.  I can literally pinch my fingers between the two if I bend to the side.  Oh the joys! 
Wait you said a FOOT?  I don't want to be 6 foot 2 OR 4 foot

As for Magic....
This kind

This kind...

Aliens?  Well I am not so arrogant to think that in the entire universe we are the only living creatures.  Do I believe they look like THIS guy...
Well at the risk of sounding judgmental...I hope not, but here in Canada we might be safe...he has no hair and might be a tad chilly here. Of course the sun might be worse for him without a good sunscreen.

Now the ghost question.  Absolutely.  I have lived in a 'haunted' house.  I know call me crazy.  One time in that house we decided to use a Ouja board...( yeah GREAT idea). After it answering some 'questions'  the triangular thing( I'm sure it has a proper name) kept moving.  On its own...with NO hands on it.  Of course this could be explained away I'm sure.  I once heard that we only use a small percentage of our brain ( some WAY less than others) so perhaps one of us in the room had the subconscious ability to move the piece.  It scared me enough to never want to play that again.  

About 15 years later, friends convinced me to play a game called Spirit in the Glass ( oh how I wish it was a drinking game) at their house.   Basically it is the same as Ouja, but you use a drinking glass and cut the letters out of paper.  You ask the 'spirits' to  answer questions.  You know the drill.  Well my friend Peter started asking questions, and the glass wasn't moving ( our fingers were on it lightly).  Me being the smart mouth that I am I started to taunt Peter, and then these so-called spirits ( guess I lost the fear from my late teens).  The glass practically FLEW across the table and landed on its side in front of me.  At first I said, " Knock it off guys"  But they claimed they didn't do it, and how would they knock the glass over if they were barely touching it?  As the night went on the 'spirit' would only move the glass if I was the one asking the questions.  

We have played several times since and with similar results.  I do have girlfriend where the same thing happens to her too.  Anyway one 'spirit' told me things that made no sense.  About a relative and a riff between family members and how she wanted my Mom to know it was alright and she had forgiven her.  I brushed it off because I had no idea about a riff.  About a month later, after no prompting from me, my Mom told me about a former sister in law from her estranged brother.  She said one of her nieces contacted her out of the blue after about 30 years. The niece said her Mom wanted my Mom to know she understood why she couldn't have helped out when she left my uncle because times were tough for all of them back then.  My cousin ( who I have never met) told my Mom she had been looking for her for years, because her Mom wanted to makes sure she understood this.  That she held no ill will towards her.  My aunt had died years ago.  My Mom told me she had been thinking a lot about her lately and how guilty she felt for not being able to take them ( 6 of them) into our house back then- my uncle was a drunk...apparently a mean one at that. It still bothers her to this day.  Or did until her niece found her.

I'm sure someone out there can explain that story away.  But I have had several, tame incidents like this.  I am not scared when we play this game.  I often still taunt, and the glass flies at me.  My friend Peter always gets upset with me, in a joking manner, but he loves to watch the glass fly too!

A few years ago a close relative got married in a haunted inn.  She didn't know it was haunted ( and well known too...they even had a tv special on the darn place) when they booked their wedding there.  About 2 weeks before the wedding apparently the ghosts 'left'  ( It is a very long an interesting story, email me if you want the link).  The owners were upset because they enjoyed living with these ghosts.  Anyway when Barney and I and my adult niece arrived there, she could see I was uneasy.  She looked point blank at me and said, " You know Wilma, that if a ghost is going to make itself IS going to be to you".  GREAT!  She had no idea about the Spirit in the Glass thing...Meh, maybe she was just trying to freak me out.  Anyway I practically slept ON TOP of Barney that night.  His response,

"Great, our first time away from the kids, in a haunted house with my ghost speaking, scared wife, sleeping on top of me and our NIECE was in the room !"  LOL...

What's on your bucket list?
Italy. I mentioned it in my last post if anyone is curious. I only have one thing on my bucket list. If I cross it off I shall add another.
and this one might be too personal, so you don't have to answer it....How would you feel if your children wanted to practice DD/TTWD?
It is not too personal, just too creepy to think about.  Not that I think dd/ttwd is creepy.  But it is intimate, and I don't like to think of it with my family members, young or old.  In fact if I am OTK and the phone rings I pray to GOD my Mother's voice does not project out of the answering machine!

 I can't even submit to a spanking within a certain amount of time after talking to my family.  I don't know how in the world those of you who live with other adults manage it mentally!

What is your favourite movie? 
My favourite movie is The Shawshank Redemption.

When I was a young teen it was The Outsiders.

I mean Patrick Swayze as the alpha male older brother...? how can you  get better than that?

Well aside from Atticus Finch ( who by the way Barney reminds me of come to think of it) from To Kill A Mockingbird.

And the movie that most intrigues me is A Picnic At Hanging Rock.  On a whim I took a Film Studies course in university, there is where I first saw this movie.  The symbolism in this movie is outstanding.  I find it eerie and fascinating all at the same time.

What is the one change within yourself since starting your ttwd adventure that you are most happy about?
I am going to cheat here and just post the link to a post I wrote after Christmas.

If an alien space ship landed in your yard and said they wanted to speak to the smartest person on the planet, who would you tell them to talk to? (Can't be Barney or me even though I know you would immediately think of us!) LOL 
I'd say, " It is your lucky day. You are already talking to her"

Seriously, I don't believe there is one specific type of intelligence therefore there isn't a smartest person in the room, much less the planet. Intelligence comes in all shapes and sizes and varies in circumstances.

As for questions...I never know what to instead I simply ask for you to please share anything you would like that we may not know about you...always love learning about friends... 
Hmm, let's see
1) I can make my tongue vibrate and touch my nose with it.
2) Even though I have swam in rivers and lakes ( including the world's biggest fresh water lake) with sturgeon, muskies, leeches, snakes, lamprey...I am terrified of the ocean.
3) Looking at pictures of whales or sharks makes my chest tighten
4) I taught my self how to decorate cakes. I started when I was 11 and the first cake I ever decorated was Fred Flintstone

5) Barney and I are both the youngest in our families
6) My oldest sibling and I are the most alike, even though we didn't even grow up together- she is that much older. She is blonde with straight hair and almond shaped eyes.
I am auburn curly and round brown eyes.
7) My eyes 'disappear' when I smile.
8) All 3 of our boys, while very different looking, look like me- at different stages of my life
9)I have an excellent memory for things I have experienced. Once I described a specific day at the cottage to my Mom. She told me that was the summer before I turned 3.
10) I don't necessarily believe in signs of the Zodiac as a rule, but I am VERY much a Libra

Is there a place here in the US you'd like to visit? 
Aside from the homes of a few blogger friends, I'd like to go to California Wine country.  

Do you have any hobbies?
My hobbies change from season to season. I like doing anything that is creative. I have refurbished and designed furniture. I decorate cakes. I have ( although not in a while) painted- I like water colours best. I love to garden. LOVE to garden. I love cooking. Today I am sewing throw cushion

As well as gardening I love being outside doing just about anything- and that includes shoveling.  But it doesn't include RUNNING!

Okay, what is your favorite childhood memory?
Hmm, that's a tough one. I had such a wonderful childhood in so many ways. It wasn't perfect or without pain, but it was wonderful.

Every Saturday my Mom would go cross country skiing. Later when I was older I would join her and her friends. They would ski to a hunt cabin in the bush, light a fire, have lunch, some would ski some more, and then head back out again. But until I was old enough to go, I would stay at home with my Dad. Often this meant going to McDonald's for lunch. I remember standing at the front door, waving to her, my Dad holding it open. I was probably about 4. She was laughing. " Don't be so excited to see me go!"

When I left for University, my Mom ( covering up her sadness as I was the last to go) went off somewhere to find something out. My Dad sat on my bed watching me hang things in my dorm room closet.

" Hmm.  I am glad to be here watching you unpack, so I won't go looking for half of my wardrobe when I get home.  Oh and Wilma, can you at least pretend to be a little sad about leaving home.....For your Mom's sake?"

Where did you grow up, and did you move often?
I grew up about a 4 hour drive North West of where we live now. As a child we never moved. I came home from the hospital into the bedroom I left for university . This was the first house my parents ever bought.

But for ME...well I moved a lot once I moved to the city I now lived in.  On average once a year until Barney and I became engaged.

How did you and Barney meet?

Barney and I worked together.  We knew each other and were friends for over 2 years before dating.  People who we are still friends from from that time said they always knew we belonged together, and they collectively sighed " FINALLY" when we started dating!  True story.  We hear this about once a year from someone we worked with back then.

Well there you have it~  everything you wanted to know, and probably a WHOLE lot more you didn't!

Yup goals achieved again this week.  Getting a little lax on what constitutes as healthy for lunch, or even what time lunch is- but other than that.  

I switched almost exclusively to the hula hoop this week.  Exchanging Downton Abbey for music.  It provides for a more vigorous work out. 

The water consumption no longer seems to keep me running nor is it difficult to consume anymore.  I am noticing a difference in my skin slightly now too.  Or at least that is what I am telling myself anyway.

QUEENIE:  Mission Accomplished this week!  Great Job!!

DownUnder Don:  He said not a great week for formal exercise.  I think he did great!  Who needs to lift weights all the time?


  1. Wow, this was a great q&a session! So many interesting things here, but I have to say, I really love the Einstein quote and I think it's kind of hilariously adorable that you get a bit freaked out thinking about ttwd and family at the the same time :-) So cool that you are a ghost magnet too! I remember seeing ghosts a lot as a child, even hearing them occasionally. Pretty neat that one gave you a positional message as an adult! And I'm glad you address having an easier time with water consumption too, I was starting to feel sorry for your kidneys :-)

    1. Oooooooooo I'd love to talk to you about your childhood ghost stuff sometime!

      Anyway, I love the Einstein quote. It is sort of a mantra around our house with a couple of dyslexics living here! The water thing is much easier now. You really do get used to it. I am NOT however addicted to exercise yet! Still waiting on that one.

  2. Sounds like you're the ghost whisperer Willie. We used to have seances at our slumber parties. It got too creepy too often, so we quit. Personally, I really do believe you can draw evil to you and I stay away from things like that these days.

    I enjoyed hearing about the beginning for you and Barney. It's funny how sometimes others can see right off what we can't. Camping for two....sounds pretty nice. Lots of possibilites ;) Oh, those cakes are beautiful! You could make a business out of decorating cakes. Those look better than any bakery cakes I've seen! I love the Shawshank Redemption too. Do you read the Stephen King books too? My favorite book of all time, The Stand was written by him.

    Great going with your fitness goals! Admit it, you would miss hula hooping if you skipped a few days, wouldn't ya?! I'm happy to say that after last weeks miss, I met my goals this week too :)

    Hugs, Queenie

    1. Queenie, you just reminded me of the first 'ghost' experience I remember when you said slumber party....Yeah, oddly enough though only the Ouja board in the 'haunted' house freaked me out. The other times I felt fine. Even the time as a child. Huh. Odd

      As for Barney and I, he told me ( waaaaay before we were dating) and i was talking to him about a guy I was dating, " I don't know why you worry about these other guys, you are going to marry me". Oddly enough he doesn't remember saying that, but he does confess to thinking it back then. So I suppose *I* was the only blind one!

      Thanks for the compliment on the cakes. I have done several for money, but I don't like doing that. It puts way more pressure on me and takes the fun out of it. I usually only charge the cost of the supplies if anything at all.

      I don't read Stephen King , but Barney loves him. I think The Stand might be one of his favourites too. I shall ask- next time I SEE him.

      AND I WILL ADMIT NO SUCH THING!! I would NOT miss the hula hoop. I am only continuing this because I am stubborn and want to say I DID IT!
      But ya know, congrats to you!

  3. Come to California and visit me and I will take you to wine country - very close to where we live. I can show you all around Northern California

    1. I would ABSOLUTELY love that! Snakes and all!!

  4. Great Q&A post!!
    Freaky ghost stories. Yikes! I think I'd steer clear of that.
    Love reading about you. :)

    Sending spring your way. You can thank me when it gets there, however there isn't an estimated time of delivery. :)

    1. Oh well thanks! Yeah the ghost thing doesn't seem freaky to me, but around here, never boring I guess.

      Um, next time you send something my way, do you think you could 'spring' for Xpress Post...cheapo? At least there is a tracking number provided!

  5. wonderful questions and answers...thanks for sharing. the cakes are beautiful and congrats on another week of accomplishing goals... Hugs

    1. Well Terps I thought maybe it was my turn to put baking on my blog! LOL. Ironically though looking at cakes do NOT make me want to eat cake. So I'll still get my food torture from your posts.

  6. Wow fun answers! Those cakes are beautiful!!

    I had a similar experience with a quija board. Those things freak me out.

    1. Hey Aurora! Great to see you here again! and thanks.

      Yeah the Ouija board still freaks me out. I left it when I moved. Apparently you can't throw them out. I wonder if it is still in the basement of that old house?

  7. Your cakes are so beautiful! I wish you lived closer. I'm attempting my first fondant cake this week. I figure if it's hideous the 7 year old boys won't care.

    Post some pictures of your garden (from last summer).

    1. Leah, make your own Marshmallow Fondant it is cheaper and easy to do. It also tastes way better than the stuff you buy. Google it. Also use LOTS of Crisco, on the counter never mind the cornstarch ( or maybe you call it corn flour/). Any way I'll look for you to talk about how easy it is and what kind of cake you are doing.

      I emailed you the garden pictures. Well the front garden anyway.

  8. Hi Wilma, you can make your tongue vibrate and touch your nose ... seriously? Loved reading this post .. the interesting facts about you and how you and Barney met. The cakes are beautiful! I wish I had at least a little talent with arts and crafts but alas I am sorely lacking.

    I would definitely chose to grow upwards too LOL. Great movie pics. Shawshank is a brilliant and powerful film. The ghost stuff is a little too freaky for me *shudders*.

    Love and Hugs,

    1. Yup to the tongue thing. I only wish it was BARNEY with the ability to do that ( um, not that...well never mind).

      So no ghosts for you huh? I don't mind in the comfort of my friend's home, but in mine or this haunted mansion, not so much!

  9. Wow! Barney must LOVE your vibrating tongue;). Your cakes are beautiful, everyone you know must probably beg you to make cakes for them. You really should think about doing it as a business. You could open up your own bakery!

    We've had similar experience with Ouja board. It freaked Rog out so much that he won't even look at one of those things again.

    I'm glad you did the question and answer thing, I really enjoyed reading everything!

    1. The tongue thing...well its complicated... and I would gladly talent that gift TO my husband *wink*

      I actually don't get asked to do many cakes- commissioned to, but I as I said, I don't like making a business out of it. I like doing it for fun. Besides I actually HATE baking. I just like the decorating part.

      See I am not a freak after all- almost everyone has a Ouja board story. And you BETTER have enjoyed this little Q & A thing- brow beater!

  10. I think I am going to have to put my blogroll back up since your posts do not show up in my reading list! This post was so full! I have some ghost stories too from living in a house that was over 100 years old as a child.

    Those cakes were lovely. I can't decorate a cake to save my life :) But I do make a yummy chocolate one and a yummy coconut one too.

    This was fun to read. Loved the little quips about you when you were little.


    1. You aren't the first person to say my blog doesn't show up on their dashboard. One friend finally decided to subscribe by email ....NOT that I am that exciting by any means.

      I wonder if there is a connection between spanked women and women who had ghostly experiences as a child???lol

    2. Spanked women and women who had ghostly experiences as a child? Hmmm that's an interesting question. lol

    3. Ghostly experiences as a child. Ghastly experiences as an adult! LOL

  11. so it turns out, that even though we talk every day, i didn't know a LOT of this stuff! i loved reading your answers and am also amazed that you achieved your goals this week... since i do KNOW how much you love to exercise. :) hugs girlie. m.

    1. What? We haven't talked GHOSTS? LOL . Um I suppose we haven't.

      What do you mean you are AMAZED? Like shocked? Like you didn't think I had it in me? Like I am a couch potato...okay well I am the last one.


  12. I loved this post and so interesting. Thanks so much for sharing.

    Shawshank one of my favourite films, watched it recently for the about the 100th time:)

    I love hearing about ghosts. We had a few in the pub we owned. We had to call in the Ghost Busters because they were frightening our cleaners.

    Have a wonderful weekend.


    1. Oh hi Ronnie!

      I had no idea people would find this post so interesting. I thought they'd mostly think I was off my rocker! Did the ghost busters get rid of the ghosts? What happened in the mansion I was in, was they had a medium come in. She told the ghosts they were free to walk toward the light and not be afraid of it, ( apparently ghosts from the War of 1812 don't have the common knowledge that we do about 'the light). She said some of them didn't even know they were dead. So they left. At least the majority of them did.
      I'd love to hear some of your ghost stories some day. It does fascinate me.

      I do so love Shawshank too. I think I originally watched it because of Tim Robbins and Barney because he loves Stephen King. We were both hooked the first time!
      Hope your weekend was wonderful!

  13. Hi Willie, congrats on meeting your goals...keep on hooping til Easter!

    Doris Day, Jimmy Stewart, "The Man Who Knew Too Much" 1956....great movie and definitely a classic dress!

    Loved the Einstein quote. I have known a few folks that were not the brightest bulb on the tree, but if Albert say we are all genius's, who am I to argue!

    I am fascinated by the first kind of magic, but the Ouija board stuff scares the heck out of me!

    Great post. Thanks for sharing!


    1. Hey George!

      I hope to keep exercising, but I have been a bit misleading. I will exercise until Good Friday. That is my quitting day. Although apparently after Vatican 2 Lent does end on Holy Thursday, but they take out Sundays, which I didn't do...Sooooooooooo it all works out in the end anyway...

      Now George just because you didn't see their genius doesn't mean they didn't have it. Even the dullest bulb has something extraordinary to offer. Alright it might be a physical more than a mental, but

      The Ouija experience did freak me out, the other ghostly type stuff didn't though. Someone once told me it was most likely an evil or 'dark' spirit or soul the time I was in the house with the Ouija board, that is why I was so scared. Meh...I don't know how Mattel can channel the spirits, but okay.
      Happy you enjoyed it!

  14. These are so great. I love getting to know stuff about everyone's "regular" life too.

    1. Oh hi Brooke!

      I'm glad you enjoyed my little post about my insanity! LOL

  15. I still have to show this to him but I think you are right. I can hear the pontificating in my head already.