A friend and I were talking about ttwd, and this community because she recently introduced someone to it. I was trying to figure out a way to explain 'here' to her. Not an easy task, and probably one I am about to fail miserably at, but what the heck, winter NEVER seems to be leaving, and as I can't garden I thought why not?
It has been my experience, that many who do not understand find things very black and white. Sadly not just when discussing ttwd, but everywhere in the world- for our purpose I'll stick to ttwd. This is why grey seems to work best. Grey encompasses both ends of the spectrum. For my analogy this is very important. You see it has been my observation that this entire section of blog land can certainly be displayed in grey scale if you will:
There are some that lean more toward the white, there are those who are in the very intense dark grey, or almost black. But more interestingly enough there are days when many of us can jump from dark grey to white in a blink of an eye and back again.
I would suppose a better example/analogy of this would be if you think of a room in your house you have painted a certain colour. Some days depending on the time of day, natural light, ambient lighting the colour on the walls change. Just like our ttwd relationships. Some days life and all of its challenges shines a bright light in the room and our grey scale is very light almost vanilla. There is no time for focusing on our needs and desires. Some times after ignoring those needs/desires/ or even guidelines our partner comes in and closes the blinds and the colour of grey deepens significantly. Or you are going along quiet comfortably in your lovely dove grey room, when a road block hits, BRIGHT WHITE it is...The base colour was always there but its appearance can change depending on the surroundings. As can the desire for the depth of colour.
Right, so back to explaining our community in grey scale. I chose the circular pallet because to me it gave more of a sense of oneness ( even with the darn split in the middle...that was NOT intentional). While we move around in our little grey scale at our own homes, other live their lives in a grey scale too. We know people who have rules, and who don't; who write; who consider themselves light. Those who are struggling with the dreaded S word. Those who's husbands appear to be struggling. We know those who call themselves Dd and all the shades that come with that. Those who bring in BDSM. Those who desire a life yet haven't found it yet. Those submit with no discipline. Those who spank for fun only. Those who spank for whatever. And I am sure I have missed so, so many other shades. But the one thing is the same, we are all within the spectrum.
Of course grey does tend to make us think of doom and gloom and living ttwd is anything but for me and those I know.
I suppose what I am trying to get at,new friend, is that you may think you are very, very light grey...or white, but you never know what the future will hold for you and your spouse. It could take months or even years to get to a shade of grey you have envisioned in your mind. You could end up discovering the colour you wanted isn't suited to your interior. But it doesn't matter because we have every shade going here, and that is what makes life interesting! If you are willing to try, we are willing to help you accessories.
40 Days of Fitness Challenge
Well another successful week of exercise and water. Iffy on the food thing, but I think I squeaked by. Still using the weighted hula hoop, with the exception of one day where I was p*ssed off at my husband and went out for an extended walk in the rain! I am now 24 days in, and for the record still NOT addicted to this exercise thing. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing there is an end date, and that I want to be successful each week, and at the end of these 40 days...
Only a few sessions on the weight machine, but 4 long walks along the beach and a full day kayak trip in the local National Park wetlands.
Look out world Queenie is in the groove!